to not see anything worng with 'allowing' DH to go out 2 nights in a row?

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...cos according to my mum it makes me a 'doormat'. He took his Dad to a gig last night and is out tonight as it was one of oldest friend's 40th during the week.

I don't believe in him having to ask me for a 'pass' to go out - I wouldn't expect to have to ask his permission, although obviously we would consider each other and DD and anything else that was going on when making arrangements.

He does go out a lot more than me - partly cos his hobbies (sport, sport and more sport!) can only be done outside the home. I thoroughly enjoy having the place to myself and pottering around doing my own thing and he'd never argue about me going out so I fail to see how this makes me a 'DM'!

Every time my dh asks to go out, which is very infrequent, I wonder why on earth he is asking me! I say 'You know whether we can afford it or not, so if we can, then go!'

I think he likes to ask to make sure I am oK about being 'left behind', as I almost never get to go out (well, not for about 4 years of bf/pregnancy anyway)

When I do manage to get out, I say 'I'm going out with ..... on ....., are you off?' if he says 'yes' then I go. Simples.

Both nights out had a 'purpose' rather than getting shit-faced a couple of nights a week which are more likely to piss people off(and waste money)

I hate talks of passes and being allowed out. I'd stop telling your mum this sort of stuff if she's going to be nasty. I don't discuss with my dad whether or not my husband is in or out on an evening. Agree it's courtesy to tell each other if going out and if young kids need to sort out who is looking after them, but other than that no-one else's business. I hate hearing henpecked childish husbands wittering on about being "allowed" out rather than just saying "will have to sort out childcare arrangements with my wife" like an adult. Women don't carry on like this if they go out.