Should my husband have bought me something for Mother's Day?

[Pengimum]

He did not get me a thing - not even a card not even a cup of tea in bed? His charming response was "well you're not my mother".

he nbu
but I hope he makes a fuss on anniversarys/birthdays

Well my DS (who is 10) gave me a lovely card, bought me a box of Lindors and got me some flowers, although they did look suspiciously like they had been pinched from s'one's garden... DS is my DC from my first marriage and then I have DD1 aged 4 and DD2 who are DH's DC. DD1 did bring home a lovely card from school.I suppose what I was miffed about is that DH did not faciliatate something for me (ie cup of tea in bed or some other small gesture - I am not talking lunch at the Ivy or a weekend mini break...). I am the mother of his children and thought that might prompt some reaction....BTW i usually do something for him on Father's day even though he is not my Dad! All I want is for him to think of doing something. I make a fuss of him on his b'day , Valentine's because I am thinking of him and I want him to feel cherished...and I apply the same standard to him thinking about me, clearly a bit naive .....he is not all bad and does usually remember Valentines and my b'day-although one year he completly forgot about my birthday and last year bought me a Sat Nav?

Sat Nav - brilliant. The noughties equivalent of a scarlet suspender set.

My Dad bought my Mum a peg bag one year for Christmas. She didn't talk to him for a week and still smarts at the memory, 30 years on.

He did redeem himself at Xmas mind you and bought me lots of little things that i really wanted - i guess he must listen to me sometimes

Pengimum

Satnav? did he have one already in his car or do you think that was gift-displacement? ie he bought you something he really wanted.

Mad still thinks fathers should be buying Mothers Day gifts on behalf of DC's and nothing will persuade me otherwise, I have drilled DP in this principle and in fact DS is so well trained that he goes off to 'choose some pretty flowers for Mummy' when we're shopping the supermarket, obviously I'm paying for them but it's a good habit for him to be in IMO

I'm also amazed I now know of 2 people who's partner would say this...

Dear Mad he does have his own Sat Nav for his bike and I am always getting lost so some thought for me went into buying said SatNav. However, on my b'day it was him that ripped it out of the box and stated playing with it!So I do thinka bit of gift displaceemnt was going on....and until my quite little DDs are old enough to sort out their own pressies for me i think he should get me something - even a cup of tea in bed( I am not some princess who expects costly gifts).
At least my lovely DS - who is 10- got me stuff and was sweet all day helping me make lunch, clearing up etc. I am trying to teach my boy how to look after himself and others so in 20 years hsi DP/DW wont be moaning about him onto the online community.
xx

Well I think a cup of tea in bed would have been nice.

But as long as they gave a cuddle& said "Happy Mothers Day."

And you did get something from 2 out of 3!