family line photo?

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Mum arranged a photo session for all her children and grandchildren and invited her parents as well.

SIL was rather spiteful over it and stopped brother going.

One thing Mum has always wanted is a picture of her, her mum, daughters and my girls so a female family line. We got some lovely ones and a few others that were family.

I posted them to my profile and labeled them up. I wrote "all the women of four generations" on the pictures I've described. So SIL kicked off at Mum! Saying that we don't count her as family. Mum tried to explain it's a family line picture it would be like Dad asking Granddad, brother and nephews to do a picture.

Apparently brother pointed out that Mum is adopted so it doesn't count! Not only is that a horrible thing to say but his eldest two are his stepchildren and don't know it but no one would dream to say they weren't ours!

Not sure what the question is here, but needed to write it.

YANBU. Not at all.

YANBU. If your SIL had a strop and opted out of being part of the photo, then she can't really bitch about it now.

Thanks both. If she'd been there then we would have done more pictures - their family, us siblings, our family, all the family etc - that they would have been involved in although however part of the family she is she is not part of our female line! Mum can treat her like her own but she can't make her have come out of her instead of her own mother! I'm sure they'd be annoyed if my OH or my BIL were included in a similar picture with Dad, my brother and nephews - maybe they shouldn't count the eldest boy in the picture

Well I think it´s your brother that´s toblame tbh.

And SIL "stopped" him going-how?

Stepchildren who don't know it - I think they should really be told.

diddl without going into too much detail because the back story to the day is not relevant, it was all spite. She banned him and the children (my parents or sister could have taken them if they'd been told) and she can make life difficult (for him and the family) if he'd have gone when she said no.

I think it was nasty of him to say what he did about Grandma (especially in his circumstances) but I don't think he'd have agreed with her about being excluded from the family line. If she'd decided that she'd been left out he wouldn't have convinced her.

Trillian, me too! They don't even know the eldest is a twin (strangely she's started talking about her twin but no one has told her) my children know that they have an Angel Sister and if you ask how many brothers/sisters they have she is included in the number. They've got a very healthy view of death, we had to tell Toddler that Nanny's dog died recently "that's OK, Great-Nanny and my sister are taking him for walks".

Families eh?!

Oh god I can't stand this. Why do some people kick off when other people have photos taken?

It's like if you're in a family you have to be in every photo, at every event, or else it's all a bloody conspiracy and they must be looking to exclude you. Do these people not have day jobs I often think, hobbies perhaps to fill up their time with?

How utterly tedious. YANBU.

Sorry - a late addition! I'm reading this at work and actually whimpered out loud at the Toddler / Nan's dog story - that's just the sweetest thing!

Your SIL sounds like a bit of a nutcase and maybe would have spoiled what sounds like a lovely day, so leave her to be miserable with herself.

Blue, Mum still does every time she retells the story and it was his mum's dog and his nan!

The pictures were part of/ tagged onto a family occasion, which is what she refused to go to, knowing that Mum had paid the photographer to be there as well. So you're right it was a lovely day and even having the more formal pictures was a laugh (lovely MNer I always use who is great with the kids).

I'm always kind of glad when she doesn't turn up to things because she makes every family event into a drama (tantrums all the way through every December refusing to go to my parents with the kids until Mum is really upset then whirls in and out on the day - pretty much sums most occasions up).