to be annoyed that both my children were still awake..........

[macdoodle]

I am single mum to 2DD's (8yrs and 2yrs), good girls they are
One evening a week I work 6-9pm, my best friend's daughter (who lives across the road),babysits, she is 18. I pay her a fair amount for the evening!

Normally both girls are in bed when I get home. But I have discovered that if DD2 does a poo, she calls her mum (my best friend, across the road), and her mum comes over, changes DD2 and puts her to bed.

So tonight, DD2 doesnt do a poo, she doesnt call her mum, and makes no effort to change DD2's nappy, put her pj's on or put her to bed

So when I get in at 9:15, they are both awake!!
According to DD1, DD2 just kept saying "no bed" and babysitter made no effort to take her up!

She was shattered, soaking wet nappy, soaked through her trousers, and sore bum After cleaning her up, she went to bed and to sleep pretty quickly!

She can be a stroppy moo, but if done firmly, should be ok!

So not entirely sure AIBU, would you expect an 18yr old babysitter to be able to change and put a 2 year old to bed!
Am not worried about DD1, she would put herself to bed, knows her bedtime, she only stayed up because DD1 was still up!

They are both asleep now!

Personally I can't understand how someone 'can't' change a nappy. Even if you've never done it before it's not exactly rocket science is it? Unless of course your DD is in terries which need a bit of origami - but disposables and even most washables are pretty straightforward.

Plus evene if she'd forgotten to change the nappy, surely pyjamas before bedtime are a given?!

I think YANBU to expect an 18 yr old with an 8 year old sibling to know how to change a nappy. This is the gap between me and my youngest sibling, and I changed plenty of nappies as she grew up! However, the mum coming across to help with pooey nappies does suggest that she might not have helped with younger siblings either.

At 18 I babysat all the time (had from 15), and would happily bath, dry, put PJs on, make milk and put to bed.

why didn't her mum show her how to do it the first time?

DD2 is in pull ups, so it isnt hard and I know she can do it, pull down pull up, easy
According to DD1, seems like DD2 has a strop on, and kep saying "no", which babysitter has let her get away with it, I'll have a word with her, telling her she is the boss not DD2 . She already knows all the bettime rules/routine and also that she can watch a DVD in my bed if she wont settle (as a treat if I am not there NOT an everyday occurence I might add)

Thanks all! As predicted I have grumpy toddler from hell this morning and am quite glad to be in work all day!