to think that random relatives coming to visit 4 days after coming out of hospital could ask me first?!

[FatSeal]

Just a whinge, but my mum told me last night that my auntie is coming up to visit for 3 days, the first weekend after we have our baby (due a c-section the monday before).

This annoys me on two levels-
One, could we not have people gatecrashing our first few days trying to get used to a new baby, especially as I am really looking forward to loving and enjoying bonding with her, as I had PTSD/ PND with my dd and didn't enjoy anything last time round.

Two, she didn't even phone and ask me! My Mum is staying for a few weeks to help out after the section, and has rented a beach house nearby, so she just asked Mum if she could come and stay and arranged it with her, then left it to Mum to tell me as a fait accompli!!!

FFS

Is she staying with you or your Mum?

Is she coming to stay with you or at a beach house your Mum is renting? If the latter, YABU if the former YANBU.

She's staying with Mum in the beach house. I just don't want beady eyes watching me for 3 days And I think she could have asked.

Funnily enough I don't mind that some of my parent's friends have done the same thing, it's just that I know they won't spend a lot of time in my house.

OK, fair enough, will polish off my best manners then ... and dd1 will love having her to play with.

stay out of the way,plead tiredness.

YANBU. We had to stop anyone coming over for the first couple of days after we had DS as we were so tired and overwhelmed. Then we staggered visits but it didn't stop some people moaning and going on about when they could visit.

We also had DH's nan over on the first day we allowed visitors at home. She done my flippin head in and it was the day I felt my absolute worst. I also felt like I had to sit up for our visitors even though I had a really bad tear and was on loads on painkillers and in a lot of pain.

Next time it will be very very different and anyone who doesn't like it, bloody tough!