Just got another email from one of her teachers this AM saying that her behaviour in class has still not improved and she is now to be put on 'report'. Which I presume means that her subject teachers will report back to the head of year about her. I have no problem with this but she has been warned that this could happen for a few weeks and has no attempt to change her behaviour - WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH HER!! I could shake her .
Bit of background - her behaviour has changed out of all recognition since she started secondary school two years ago (now in Yr8) although there was a bit of silliness where she was dared to do something and did it in Yr6, nothing serious though. We actually moved her to her current school at the start of Yr8 as in the first school, she got involved with a group of 'challenging' kids and started playing up and getting dententions so we thought moving her would be a good idea to prevent the downward spiral that she is now on anyway!! She agreed with the move and made new friends very quickly but kept falling out with them and moving on to other kids cos people keep 'annoying' her. She is now disruptive in lessons, refusing to do her work and talking back and arguing with the teachers . She says it's other kids as well but I have made it clear I don't care what the other kids do!! We have discussed it with her until we are blue in the face, trying to figure out why she is so irritable and angry all the time at home as well. She is plain nasty to her brothers and refuses to do any activities out of school apart from a performing arts academy that costs me an arm and a leg but which I thought would be good for her confidence but I have to literally force her to go!! She says that she can't control herself but she does'nt seem to care that she is letting herself down badly . I certainly do not blame the school as they are communicating with me and doing all they can.
I have been looking for excuses about why she has gone off the rails but we are a 'normal' family, there is nothing in her life to make her behave badly. I am pregnant but she was like this before that! We talk a lot and still have lots of cuddles. Her father dotes on her and she gets plenty of attention so I am coming to the conclusion that she is just a spoilt brat and am seriously thinking about home educating her for a few years (as I will not be able to go back to work because of the baby anyway) to get her away from 'outside influences' until she matures a bit more but obviously that will mean she will have less contact with the outside world and will probably lose contact with friends etc, so am I being too harsh??