need advice ~ vasemtomy

[mumof2children]

both me and my df has agreed after months of conversation that he would have the snip.

i know deep down i don't want any more children and neither does my partner.

we have a gp appoinment for friday to descuss this, but i am not sure if df could go through with it as he is very squrmish and even when i have been in labour almost fainted both times.

i would prefer it for me to have it done as i know 100% i could go through with it.

iam 24 and my oh is 31, do you think i would be able to have it done on the nhs

My DP had it done 2 weeks ago, he was in and out in an hour and was a bit uncomfortable for a few days afterwards but wouldn't say he was in pain. He didn't feel anything during the procedure and was laughing and having a brew and some biscuits ten minutes after the procedure.

I don't think I would have been willing to have it done (Im 24 too) Im happy that I do not want anymore children but I think the procedure is simpler for men than women.

Not sure about the NHS for you but my DP had his done on the NHS.

HTH a bit

My DP had the snip last year on the NHS and it was a twenty minute appointment and then two days feeling a bit sore.

I suggested I had it instead but it's surgically more complicated for women which worried him. He also had health insurance to deal with any after problems but I didn't.

Plus why deny him the weeks of telling people how brave he was.

I really doubt that the NHS would consider sterilising you due to your youth. My ds has eight children, the last two are twins and she asked them to do a tubal ligation while she was having a CS. They turned her down in case she wanted more . She was already 36. Let your dp have it done, no anaesthetic (apart from local) necessary.

I'm 25 & DH is 31, he's just been approved for the snip, we also have 2 dc's.
They wouldn't let me be sterilised 'just in case'.
However, my sil was sterilised last year at 26, paid for by the nhs, and she has no children. So I think it depends on the GP/Surgeon and how convincing you are.
I guess they see that I have children, and could at somestage want another, where as my sil has never wanted children, and would not keep a baby if she found herself pg.

send your dh, and tell him to be brave

it is a much simpler op for a man (dh had it done at local gp surgery)

I think that you are far too young to consider thas and should look at other methods of contraception such as a coil or implant or injection, taht are long lasting but essentially reversible

how old are your children?

You have to be able to spell it to be eligible

I asked to be sterilised last year and was point black refused because I am considered too young. I am 31 with 3 dcs.

Being practical, it is a much simpler procedure for a man - some have it done in their lunch break apparently.

Alternatively, there are long term methods of contraception readily available and dont involve ANY surgery!

Sorry "point blank refused"

there is not alot of contraception i can use.... pill i will end up forgetting to take...... and hormone based contraception make me bleed constanly.... curently i have been bleeding for 9 weeks.
i am not allowed another coil as 2 has expelled.

i really though don't see the diffrence between me and my df having it done... either way we won't be able to have another baby

mumof2children - you sound just like me, it's not a lot of fun is it. I've tried everything, so we've come to the conclusion that DH having the snip is the only way.

Kit - I can't believe your sil has been sterilised aged 26 without any children. Her choice - ok but imo that is far too young to make that choice!

i have 2 children, a son aged 4 and a daughter almost 1