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children with tv's etc in their rooms

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PeppermintPasty · 15/03/2010 20:48

AIBU to think that the world has gone mad when I hear of children not getting enough sleep etc; because they have TVs, computers in their rooms and are up all night with them, or most of the night? Why don't the parents take the damn things out? I don't get it. Is it just too difficult an area for parents to get into with their offspring? Am I naive in thinking we should all have these things in one/two central rooms, or am I just hopelessly out of touch?

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JodieO · 15/03/2010 22:05

Mine don't have tvs in their rooms at the moment and they're 8, 6 and 3.

Tiredmumno1 · 15/03/2010 22:07

it's not fucking easy i should know, my kids are those demons that has one in their room, i dont really want to go into it now, but i suppose i am a bad mum, well whoop dee fucking doo, you try dealing with them, having no help cos no one gives a fucking toss, think about situations b4 u open your mouth, and start slagging every tom, dick and harry off. what is wrong with you people

2shoes · 15/03/2010 22:09

dd has had one fopr yonks, I blame the cp...ds had one too, dam cp again as he could never watch stuff downstairs.
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thesecondcoming · 15/03/2010 22:11

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VKschmeekay · 15/03/2010 22:11

What don't you understand about it Trinity?

I actually have an 'excuse' for DS getting used to it, but I always found it comforting and I can't see any reason to deny my son classical music that is soothing when he is going to sleep. He is always fast asleep within 15 mins of lights out and I can turn it off.

I think a bloody night light is more distracting than soothing tunes!

piscesmoon · 15/03/2010 22:13

You are not out of touch. I don't care what anyone else does, I don't think anyone wants a TV in their room and definitely not a DC.

Tiredmumno1 · 15/03/2010 22:14

ah just feelin down, other half has walked out and i am just pissed off and cant be bothered with the whinging bout stupid shit, life is to short to worry about a soddin tv, i would happily lob every tv out the window that we own just for the damn satisfaction. i hate everything and everyone right now, it's not your fault though, just venting anger

WilfSell · 15/03/2010 22:18

My kids have quite big age gaps between them. As a result we're considering it. It is pretty difficult to police the choice downstairs when each of 3 wants something different. And he needs his own space away from the little guys.

So we might. And I will both monitor what he watches and when he watches. I see little difference between insisting he stops watching downstairs at 8.30 and insisting the same in his bedroom tbh.

Tiredmumno1 · 15/03/2010 22:21

sorry all i do apologise, havin a bad fecking night, god i just dunno anymore

cat64 · 15/03/2010 22:27

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Aduby · 15/03/2010 22:32

My 13 yr old DS has a tv in his room and it works great for us. He is certainly not up there every night watching rubbish until the early hours on a school night - the two do not go hand in hand......when friends are here or when he wants time to himself it comes in handy.

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MrsCrafty · 15/03/2010 22:35

My children have their own room downstairs, to watch tv. They are 6 & 3.

Personally, I don't watch it, but it's amazing how bored they become because they have it.

They would much rather be on the pc playing games or playing with me.

I don't do playing with me, so they get to kill each other most of the time.

sweetkitty · 15/03/2010 22:44

Mine are 5 and 4 and keep asking for a TV in their room which they will not be getting.

Their little friend has had one in her room since she was 3, she goes up to bed and watches DVDs every night until she falls asleep, her Mum says regularly past 9pm. The thing is when we visit the TV downstairs is on 24/7 blaring cbeebies that the adults have to talk over, the TV upstairs is blaring a DVD and the kids aren't even watching any of them. If it gets turned off though the 4 yo complains and her 2yo is getting the same way. Sad thing is when my 20mo visits she stands in front of the TV transfixed. We do watch TV here but in short doses when Mummy needs to mumsnet so some work.

ScreaminEagle · 15/03/2010 22:53

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shockers · 15/03/2010 23:02

I'd rather the kids were downstairs with me... might change my mind when they hit their teens though

donkeyderby · 15/03/2010 23:11

Oh dear. DS2 (7) has a big fuck-off TV in his room as his severely autistic brother won't let him watch anything in the sitting room, (apart from AC/DC videos on loop).

Fear not though my judgey friends...it's a cheap, second-hand TV which only plays DVD's, only at weekends, never on school days, time always strictly limited. We still manage to spend time together as a family, eat every meal together, read books together, go to museums together etc. etc.

TV's in bedrooms are only as damaging as the parents controlling them

Tiredmumno1 · 16/03/2010 00:42

Thanx, no didnt post in relations, may do tomoz though

BertieBotts · 16/03/2010 01:10

See, those of you who say you have boundaries, I used to have a TV in my room and was not allowed to watch TV after the watershed. I just used to watch it with the sound turned low - my mum never noticed. I don't think I saw anything that interesting though!

oldenglishspangles · 16/03/2010 01:38

No tvs - I have a view of how I want my family to live.....the problem with trying to bring dcs up to be independent of thought is that dcs will have their own view on it

helenwombat · 16/03/2010 03:56

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sweetkitty · 16/03/2010 07:20

I suppose it is a different issue but I cannot stand cbeebies on all the time, from the minute the DC are up until they go to bed, half the time they aren't even watching it yet it is on.

I agree it is upto the parents to control the TV isn't the issue it's the lack of control over it.

izzybiz · 16/03/2010 07:28

My Dd has had a tv/dvd player in her room since she was about 3, she has no arial point so can only watch dvds.

She is allowed one on a weekend night on school nights she knows it is story then bed.

I agree its about having rules, my Ds1 is 17 now and still has to use the laptop downstairs, Im more concerned by what they can view onlline than watching a dvd every so often!

izzybiz · 16/03/2010 07:30
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borderslass · 16/03/2010 08:25

my youngest 2 are 14 and 15 both have PC's and TV's but are turned off at 10 pm every school night. ds is up at 6 for school pick up at 7.15 every morning no problem and dd2 is out of the house by 8, to be fair ds doesn't sleep but that is due to his sn but he knows not to put TV or PC back on after its been turned off.