To get annoyed with my family?

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Mum lives 7 hours away, one sis lives 3 hours away, the other is in the same city as me. I don't know whether I am being ultra-sensitive or not, or selfish, please tell me!
Sis will come up at the last minute and stay with us, but shops all day and doesn't seem to consider spending time with my 2 kids. Mum also does this, spends a while playing with the kids then takes ages getting ready, hogging the bathroom when my husband has to get ready for work.
The other sis expects that I'll host everyone at mine for a meal, when they will talk about things that are happening to themselves while my kids and husband are on the sidelines.
I really want my kids to be closer to them, but while I realise it's not all about them, a bit more attention would make a big difference. Also, it's our home, and I just want some consideration about this fact.
I love seeing them, and sound as if I am throwing my toys out of the pram. AIBU or should I just grow up?

YANBU. As they say you can't choose family.

I wanted this too for my DS. I wanted him to have close aunts and uncles but my SIL has no interest whatsoever. We are still waiting for her brithday card for DS (was end of Jan) because we haven't been to pick it up (she is perfectly capable of driving the 10 minutes to come and drop it off) he doesn't have it yet and I am refusing on principle to go and get it. She never bothered to let us know that she wasn't coming to DS's party. Sent a text to her mum saying she was busy (nothing new there) but nothing to us, not even a message on FB.

My sister is in the Navy so comes when she can but she is away a lot. My other sister lives down the road and never bothers. My brothers are typical 18 and 19 year olds so we don't see that much of them and they have to be badgered into remembering occasions, then they don't always bother. In general they are pretty good but I have always done quite a lot for them which I don't begrudge one bit as I love spending time with them.

I have come to realise that I am actually more thoughtful of others than other people in my family. Sounds like the same for you OP. You just have to accept that your sisters and mum don't have quite as much interest in your family as you would have hoped.