to think that if you are "really ill" you should not come to baby classes?

[BabbittyBumble]

This has really wound me up over the last few weeks... grr...

There's a mother at our local baby music group who keeps turning up telling us all how ill she and/or her dd have been. It's every couple of weeks, and I feel bad for her dd who does seem to get a lot of bugs, but... This morning she came in saying that she's had "what [dd] had last week" i.e. vomiting bug and laryngitis. She said that she didn't want to keep dd at home all day so she thought they'd come along anyway.

There are two pregnant women in our class (including me), and because my last preg ended in mc. I am particularly nervous about catching other people's bugs and infections. I felt like walking out this morning, but didn't have the courage as I would have had to admit why, and I didn't dare, but I hate feeling like my pregnancy is jeopardised because of her selfishness gung-ho attitude to illness. What would you do?

I'd try to jokingly say "I know we were taught that it's polite to share, but there are exceptions!" and hope that she took the hint. Then I'd make my excuses and stay away from her.

oh I blardy hate ill people not keeping their germs to themselves!! total pet hate of mine.

I even shuddered the other day to see a poor kid absolutely covered in coldsores at a soft play centre...like euuuggh rubbing his mouth all over the foamy stuff GAH!!!!

Oh that is the sort of thing to send me sprinting off with dcs in arms, VoodooWolf! Awful!

I wish I had the guts to say that SheWillBeLoved. When I get worked up I find that if I try to say something jokingly the irritation in my voice has a way of making itself known, and so I just can't do it. I don't know why this woman thinks that everyone else will be fine with running the risk, so that she can come along. There's always a visible 'shrinking back in chairs' effect when she announces the most recent illness that she's brought along

'tis often the case when kids are involved...they are either ill, recovering or just catching something. My kids, any way.

I have to say I tend to go along to classes with cold bugs as if I didn't I'd never go!

D&V bugs are a bit different though, but not so common so I would be happy to stay at home for a few days after one of them, but seriously there would be no baby classes if everyone with colds stayed away.

Mild cold, fine.
Puking, temperature or similar, not fine.
Yanbu.

Cold are fine to share builds up the immune system

Other things are not. Can you have a word with the leader if you havent got the courage to say something yourself? I would have no problem asking her not to share...have you got someone whos would have the balls to say it (in a nice way of course!)?

I hate this too. I have one friend in particular who both her and her family always seem to be ill and have a tendancy to turn up unexpectedly at our house when at least one of them has always got something wrong with them.

They even turned up on the day I found out I was pregnant and one of the DS's had been off school all week with suspected swine flu!! DH was absolutely seething.

Yanbu. Even if there weren't pregnant people I think its unreasonable for people to 'share' their germs like this. My colleague came into work while her children all had a bad vomiting bug and promptly gave it to half the office. But it is particularly unreasonable when there are pregnant people / small children etc around. I would have been tempted to say somethign but know what you mean about not having the courage

Agree with nickytwotimes. I wouldn't stay away for a cold or mild cough- otherwise we'd never have left the house this winter. But vomiting, temperature, anything like that, I would definitely stay away.
YANBU

She can't have been THAT ill though otherwise she wouldn't have been able to make it out to baby class.

I know when I have a vomiting bug I can barely leave the side of the loo.

Is she perhaps a little overdramatic / prone to exaggeration? I have a friend a bit like this...

she is maybe doing it for the attention and there's nothing wrong with her..you do get people like this.

stay away from her at these classes,move to a different part of the room and speak to others.