That my mothers day lunch has now been transfered to Mil's?

[4andnotout]

Dp had arranged to cook me a Sunday lunch at home so we could have a relaxing day catching up on a few household chores, however we popped in his parents last night and his mum asked us to dinner and rather than saying we had plans he offered to go over and cook dinner there.
I was looking forward to a nice wine with my meal which won't happen at the mil's as she is anti alcohol, their bungalow is tiny and we will spend the entire day way watching last of the summer wine!

My parents live 3 doors away but there has been no mention of when I can drop my mums present in.

So am I being childish as dp insists?

No YANBU - you were looking forward to a nice day and now the plan has changed. Could you not be a bit militant and take your wine to the iL's anyway?

You don't have to go. Either say no, or let him go and you go to your ma, or invite them to you (which is maybe what you should have done in the first place)
Your dh should be doing something for his ma.

Yanbu it's a little unfair when you were planning a nice quiet day but dp probably thought he couldn't say no. She is his mother after all.

I have told him I'm not going after all she isn't my mum, I didn't invite my parents to lunch as my mum is on the Cambridge diet so eating is off the menu!

So looks like a quiet day for me as I shall send the dd's with him

I think it's really nice of your dp to cook his mum and his wife lunch on mothers day.

Next year, either cook yourself and invite your mum and MIL or arrange for you all to go out so no-one cooks.

Can't remember the last time my dh did something thoughtful forhis mother.

It's all sorted now, I'm going to my mums for lunch and he'll go to his.

nicely handled!!! he has both kids and his mum all afternoon.

Yep! he has all 4 dd's to look after so I think I've got the best result!