to lie to MIL about where I was yesterday morning?

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Told her I was at the library, post office and bank when I was actually clothes shoping and drinking coffee in Starbucks! AM sick of her little jibes about how I'm good to myself etc etc. I work hard Monday to Friday and like to treat myself on the rare occasion I have some time to myself.

None of the women in MILs family work or have ever worked, they don't spend money on themselves and are content to spend their time doing housework and watching tv. She thinks I'm spoilt. Can't believe I've actiually started lying about it though

Ooh come on, of course yabu. Flaunt, flaunt, flaunt. When she makes her nasty little jibes that you are good to yourself, just agree with her, flick your hair to one side and say "Because I'm worth it". She sounds jealous and bitter and if you hide this, she'll just find something else about you to criticise.

Oh God I agree, completely rub her face in it.

I'vehad this for 20 years - i SOON learnt to get in first and say how many shopping trips and naps I'd had that week-end.

franke yes she is jealous - she would not have had a chance to treat herself either when her DCs were small or now. You're prob right about her finding something else to criticise. She thinks my housekeeping leaves a lot to be desired

I personally sort of agree with the above posters. You are being exceptionally modest to a petty woman who you shouldn't feel the need to underplay yourself to.

YANBU, but I would say you shouldn't feel obliged to make that sort of effort. If she picks at you for things, clearly she's not worth the effort of trying to please. My DP and my Mum have a similar relationship, because my mum is insanely demanding, and my DP refuses to bend over backwards for her when she'll never be pleased anyway.

Gosh you're earning points all the time. Goes out and enjoys herself and Doesn't Do The Housework. Your poor dh, what he must suffer with you as a wife

LOL at franke!!!!!

haha thanks ladies - I shan't bother with the lies from now on

Don't start me on what she thinks about me sometimes leaving DH to (gulp) babysit for his own child!