to want to bitch-slap dh until he bleeds....?

[issysmilkbottle]

arghhhh...... Dh has a serious snoring problem, i've posted about it before...

Anyway past couple of weeks he's had a cold/cough and has been sleeping on sofa -bliss! Me and dd (16 weeks) have been able to sleep, feed, back to sleep nicely.... Not ideal him sleeping down there but he refuses to use nasal strips/snooreeze/go to gp about snoring ....

Anyway, last night he was working until half nine and decided to go for a beer so he wouldnt be back until half eleven, no probs.. I went to bed. He is working this morning and has to get up at 6:15 so he knew he'd sleep downstairs. He's not the quietest at night or morning either...

I was up with dd at 11:30 and 2:30, both times she fed for half hour and straight back to sleep, so i was able to go back to sleep around 3... Dh came into bedroom clutching his bag, phone etc, all lights in hall on saying a mouse/rat downstairs was running around and woke him (his bloody fault we have one, wont use plate for bread, chucks scraps of food into wicker basket instead of kitchen bin!) and that he was coming to bed. I made him turn of his alarm as its too loud and he doesnt turn it off quickly and i dont want us all up at 6:15... I set mine....

He climbs into bed and honestly within seconds is snoring! i cant sleep and within minutes dd is awake. I try feeding her, she is distracted and wont feed/fall back asleep... I poke dh several times, no luck...

Put dd into cot, she's gurgling away and poo-ing so i change nappy and try and get her to sleep again, no luck and now the b*trd dawn chorus has joined in so i've put her back into her cot with twinkle little star playing on repeat and daddy snoring like a wart-hog in the background..... Arghhh happy bloody mothers day!

Can i bitch slap him until he bleeds and cries like a girl or aibu?

I am intrigued by the wicker basket with scraps of food in it. What's that all about?

And maybe get the mouse problem sorted?

Or rat? Make him sort it if he's the cause!

Horrible thread title. It's not being pofaced to object to someone posting a thread title that they want to slap their partner till they bleed.

I am with custardo.

Have you got an I-phone? I noticed that there's an app that monitors your snoring level. I mentioned it to dh last night as he always claims that he's not asleep when in face he's snoring. DH said that he realised years ago that I was right and he was wrong - rather please with that tbh. Anyway, you could get it and show him how much he snores, how loud it is and how it's effecting the quality of his sleep. that might make him go the the GP.

yanbu hopefully he'll punch you back though to counteract your annoying bitch-slapping habit.

ok.... I would like to state for the record that i have never hit dh or anyone nor do i condone violence... The title was out of frustration this morning, especially as its dh's habits that invited the mouse in...

The wicker basket in our lounge is for paper rubbish, unfortunately dh also puts beer cans, crusts etc in here and never hoovers around it (his only real chore is hoovering as i'm a chronic asthmatic and he finds it soothing..)

I am sorry if i have offended anyone, obviously iabu...

[sulks away and avoids mn for a few days....]

I also read it as tongue-in-cheek frustration, and feel your pain; dh also snores, but thankfully only when on his back and tends to turn over (without waking) when asked. If it were on-going I think I would feel much the same....

And we really need a cat's bum mouth for some MNers. Get over yourselves. Honestly.

Lol... I'm off to search for that app now for iPhone!!!!

Sounds interesting

"Get over yourselves"

How lovely.

A quick read at a few of the Relationships threads on here should tell you just how prevalent violence towards women is.

I can appreciate that the OP wrote the title our of sheer frustration, but it is still horrible, and if a man came on here and wrote a thread with such a title he would be roundly castigated by us all.

OP - I think that recording your DH snoring would be a great idea, and playing it back when he's just dropping off would be the best way to

a) get your revenge
b) make him realise he does have a problem

Thanks for explaining about the basket I don't think YABU. And I wasn't offended by the title either.

Yes. bitch slap him until he bleeds. Or maybe you could stab him to death.

I do find all this 'have a go' at the OP and her thread title a bit pointlessly aggressive, which is ironic really

What an odd app!!!!

I'd go with Buddleja's idea - not the slapping him bit - record him snoring then set it as his ringtone

You could then ring him while he's at work the embarrasment might make him go to the gp's

i have recorded him before, on my phone and the dictaphone i use for my research.... He simply called me a freak!

Wish i did have an iphone, that app sounds fab!

The last time he came to bed and snored my ds was at his dads so i moved myself and dd into his room at 12/2... Cant do that now dd is out of moses basket....

I apparently snore in bed and it has caused lots of problems.

My first wife had no issues with it (I suspect she could sleep during a rock concert) but second wife finds it annoying and stressful. So much so that even making a snoring noise during the day as a joke stresses her out completely.

She also used to elbow me for snoring when I thought I was awake, so I can empathise with you having had a similar situation.

You can search elsewhere for more information on causes, but being overweight is often the issue (even only slightly ? I?d hardly be termed obese) and alcohol makes it worse. Because the airways are blocked the quality of sleep is also very poor so you don?t feel refreshed in the morning as it?s as if you?ve never slept. Search for info on sleep apnea.

I tried nose strips (no use) and also lost some weight (slight improvement) but had no desire to go teetotal (although just a single pint can bring on the snoring). In the end I had a doctor effectively drill out my nostrils to widen them. Still no joy. The next step is a machine to fit when you are sleeping but that seems too much for me. Otherwise I could have the back of my through lasered.

I suspect may women just learn to ignore it or sleep in a different room. As it is I?ve moved rooms but the damage this can do to a relationship if you lose quality personal time together should not be underestimated.

Recording your husband?s snoring and sharing the noise with him is a good first step. Fundamentally he already knows that it is an issue but it is both embarrassing for him and not something that he has control over or indeed is something that he wishes he did. As such, revenge it not appropriate and trying to exaggerate the issue will backfire. As with so many things on MN that seem to bring out some serious ire from the posters, the best approach is probably an adult conversation, perhaps focussing on the fact that he is tired even after a full night?s sleep, is therefore not refreshed, and so there is merit it talking to a GP to try and fix this. Spin it so that you are helping him rather than trying to solve your problem, even if this is actually the same issue.

thank you, good to get a male perspective! Dh is a hypocondriac so when i memtioned his health he moaned... Might work on that tack....