to think time DS and I should come b4 run

[hippodrama]

this has become a major issue. Granted it's not the only issue but the situation is the three of us don't have much time other than on a Sunday because of work and business commitments. On Sunday we could spend the day together. (He has one day off in week which is his own. I don't). He refuses to go for his Sunday run later on in the afternoon or evening and insists he must go in the morning meaning that everything has to be planned around this. He's training for the marathon so he might be out for a couple of hours. He won't budge, he won't compromise. Came to a head today because of Mothers Day (my first) which will have to be arranged around his training. He told me I'm selfish and egotistical. Am I being unreasonable in asking him arrange his training around us rather than vice-versa.
Appreciate some feedback!!

Well unless this man is arranging alternative childcare then effectively his wife is being told what to do "stay home and mind the child, woman" by the man who is putting his running around ahead of his responsibilities.

Getting exercise doesn't give you a free pass to be a selfish twat.

I would let him do his run but in the afternoon I would visit a friend for a couple of hours and leave him with the baby

he gets two hours, you get two hours off

sorted

as an aside I would love a marathan running dh instead of a couch potato

I don't really see what the difference is between a selfish git who spends his time drinking and a selfish git who spends his time running around the place.

In both scenarios they are taking their wives' labour for granted and putting their own little pleasures ahead of their family.

Is there a list of which pastimes "come first"?

Drinking - NO
Running about - YES

Making stuff?
Hanging out with friends?
Masturbating?
Daydreaming?
Role playing games?
Computer games?
Watching telly?
Going to the cinema?
Going to gigs?
Playing in a band?

Is it OK to go off and spend hours and hours of weekend time doing all or any of these things without your partner's agreement when you have a baby together?

I don't get to spend half as much time on the things I enjoy as I used to and I certainly don't feel I could commit to something as time-consuming as a marathon. Neither does DH. I thought that was a normal part of having babies/v small children?

but the OP says this has been goin gon for 8 months

i'd be really hacked off too

and he says she is selfish and egotistical to ask him to compromise

that is not acceptable

i agree with skidoodle

now the mornings are lighter, surely a run early in teh morning would be better, he is done with his training and energised and then has virtually the whole day for spending with his family if this is the only day they have together

and when does the OP get to get her headspace and time away ?

never, it would seem

YANBU

DH is unbearable if he doesn't have his morning runs on the weekend. But he is up and gone by 6am and back by 8am so it doesn't make any difference to our day.

Could he go earlier so it doesn't effect the day too much?

He also doubles up on runs on the weekend by taking DS on an easy one in the afternoon (DS on scooter DH jogging).

Would something like that suggestion go down well?

thanks for all your feedback. Skidoodle lol. He goes for run on his morning off too and a couple of evenings a week which means that I am home with DS. I get no time or headspace at the moment. I've told him that this week I'm having one evening for me and he will need to stay in with DS. Hope this will make me feel better. Today he did his run and finished by midday. We all went for lunch but things didn't go well. Another story. Suffice to say I am not sure this relationship can work any longer.

Hippodrama

Oh dear hippo. More to it than the run I suspect