TO BE SO MAD AT DH

[ilovesprouts]

hi my dh and i have gone through a bit of a bad patch atm ,ds2 had a mri scan today last night dh tells me oh im going to sumerset for a break knowing full well his sons going for his mri scan, no fone call to ask how ds is im so mad ,i feel like telling him not to come back

no dont love him anymore cant cope whith his moods etc want him to get his things and go for good

oh ilovemysprouts i am so sorry it has come to this. Do you have anyone around you right now, family or friends? Is he likely to try to persuade you to change your mind or is this break his way of saying he wants it over too?

where did i get the 'my' from in your name? oops!!!

Yrnbu what a waste of space. I would be fuming and some things are impossible to get back from!

I hope your ds is ok! Take special care of you x

YANBU and reading your further posts it does sound as though you would be better off witout him. Hope your DS's scan results come soon and are positive.

not had fone call at all hes whith his so called mate who goes and visits certain ladies and pays money for personal favors yuk

urgh if that is the comapny he keeps ilovesprouts, I think that speaks volumes.

tbh, ilovesprouts, I think he's made his choice, don't you? He's just too cowardly to be straight with you.

If he cared at all - he'd have hotfooted it back when you said you were going to end the relationship (in so many words). He'd certainly be keeping in touch.

I suspect he wants out but wants you to be the 'bad guy' who officially ends it.

still no contact from him or his so called pal ,and to cap it all ds gas the runs and my dd whos 33wks pg finger sand ankles have swollen up ,well sounds like its up to me to tell him our five year marrage is over,its been coming to this since last year ,but im fine was a whirl wind romance ,dont think hes dated anyone b4 me we met july 05 married oct 05 and our ds was born dec 06

Ilovesprouts - any contact today?

no not one call ,dh and his mates mobs are off

ILovesprouts - I would concentrate on your DS.

I may have this wrong, but I am assuming your DS who had an MRI scan was HIS son too.

In which case, there really is no question to answer now.

hi just had a txt from him saying hes not coming back ,and he will arange a van to get his things asap yes ds is his son too dont know how im going to manage have no money till thurs day as both gas/electrics on the emergancy

what an arse. Is there anyone you could borrow £10 from? Until you get some money, so you don't run out of electricity? If not, insist he gives you something if his money is for both of you. He has a responsibility to his son still, regardless of his pigish attitude towards you. You really do sound like you are better off this way, but for you.

Make sure you talk to the relevant people asap, any benefits you get, let them know you are now on your own, housing benefit if you get it etc so that payments can be adjusted asap.

Oh ilove

Where are you? Can we help?

i live in west yorkshire ,spoke to dh today as he got his incapcity benifit but cant send owt up due to banks chargers grr

Sorry to hear this.

Do you have much support around you? Anyone to help you sort out the practicalities?

Otherwise, try and get to CAB or solicitors for advice.

Hope your DS MRI was ok.