friend A knew friend B and I had planned to meet up this Friday. haven't seen friend B since last April! mostly because when three of us make any plans, friend A will cancel last minute or re-arrange it...but never makes it to that either. somewhow freind A will then meet up with B for an hour lunch or after work for a quick bite. (me not invited and it's always too spontaenous for me!!) freind A will also come round to mine randomly, but never if it's planned with all three of us.
Today, Friend A sent friend B a text to ask if she wanted to go out with her instead of me on Friday. Friend B who is sick of cancellations and the text sounded strange and quite out of the blue, called me to ask if friend A knew if she's coming round to mine? I said yes. Friend B then told me about the text and that she would like to just come round and see me and my ds as we've had so many let downs by friend A all last year. I asked friend A why she did this...and she said she hadn't thought much into it, but the salsa class had come up (freind does not do salsa! but friend B could be interested) and wanted to just test freind B. I said it wasn't nice as she clearly knows we have made plans. and even if freind b went, that would be them dumping me after I've planned this.
Friend A feels she has to show me that friend B is not a good friend. (yes, she is more a work colleague that meet up once in a while, and freind A got to know her through me. After I had ds, they did things together (both being at a bit of a loss as I couldn't get out and continue going out as much.) i did not mind them getting together, even feeling releived that I wasn't letting them down all the time while getting ds into a routine. I made new friends at the playgroups - sort of leaving behind my single freinds in a way.
Friend A and B didn't get along as well as they had with me, having less in common and sort of no history and very different opinions. They haven't seen eachother since last August. But each time i've tried to meet up with freind B, freind A has made plans to meet up with her and then let her down and talked me out of meeting up with her and inviting herself round to mine instead. I never thought much of it before except the last few times i've thoughtit very strange because it's coming up to a year now that I haven't seen B. I was almost going to not tell friend A as I had started feeling like she will jeapordise this again. And as i suspected, suddenly, randomly she has decided to text friend B. (WTF?)
Am i reading this right. freind A is jealous of me having freind B round without her- or me having any other freinds full stop? I have to say it's been very difficult with ds and freind A has never been there. Usually swanning off somewhere (unless a freind is coming round, then she will also come round the day before or the next day!) She says she doesn't want me to be used by freind B, although how this will happen when we are just meeting up round mine and playing with playdough???? Freind A has been a good freind for about 15 years. I feel like we are usually ok. but is it time to say byebye