AIBU To wear a red dress to a wedding?!

[Mowgli1970]

I never gave this any thought until I mentioned it to a friend who said I shouldn't wear red to a wedding, but couldn't remember if it was superstitious (and therefore a load of IMHO) or what. Any idea why red is taboo?!

I heard similar to Spiderpig8 about the red and white thing - especially during the war it was considered bad luck to have red and white together

My hair was vivid scarlet at my wedding last year

I think it's funerals you're not 'supposed' to wear red to.

Paula Yates wore a red wedding dress. She certainly looked different and I don't think she had any bad luck. RIP

My cousin wore a fab red dress to our wedding and I had no idea that she shouldn't have!

I think the only two things you shouldn't wear to a wedding are a long white dress or a black dress with a black hat and veil draped over your face.

My friend wore a fantastic red dress to my wedding and I don't think she stands out much on the photos (and it was a real wow dress). Wear it you will look lovely.

Confuddled, I got maried in purple, does this mean I'm just wierd or is my fate too bad to publish...

nannyynobnobs I also wore scarlet hair to my wedding 6 years ago!

i've only ever heard red mentioned as something you shouldn't wear by one bride to be....and she is the silliest, princessiest person in the entire world, and it has made me determined to wear red to every single wedding I ever get invited to.....

wear whatever you want to wear in whatever colour. Who cares.

bernadette just read your post re P Yates

ROFL

i got married in red :P

unless specifically prohibitted by the bride - fine, good even.

Nothing rhymes with purple flaime!

I haen't heard of this. I know white and black are a no-no (drawing attention away from the bride and funeral colour) but any other colour goes as long as it is appropriate.

I got married in red , even though I'd heard the rhyme above. I'm not superstitious, and what does it leave, orange or purple?

such a passionate and emotional colour I would plump for

I'm with spiderpig8. My mother VVV superstitious banned me from having a combination of red and white at my wedding cos of the whole blood and bandages thing. As far as I know that just extends to the bridal party beyond that it's your call.

what about if you got married in ivory??

i think red would be ok to wear to a wedding as long as it isnt a wedding dress you are planning to wear then its ok

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i had scarlett coloured bridesmaids dresses and dark red tulips with my ivory dress did i bring some bad karma by doing that? me and DH are ok so nowt wrong with the colour red in my book

In Japan it is unlucky for the bride to wear white as it is the colour of death. The bride wears red instead. Unless it's a Japanese wedding I wouldn't worry!

Half a billion (or more) get married in red - isn't that the lucky colour in China? (I know the big white dress is popular, too).

My SIL married my brother wearing red, and they seem happy (his hair was red, too, iirc). However, a friend of her mother's (well into her fifties) wore a very tight, revealing lycra red number to the happy event, which caused a few raised eyebrows, but it wasn't the colour that was the problem...

Go for it

I didn't write the poem, just copied it in. I'm not superstitious either (I walk under ladders to make a point!)

Maybe it is an American thing, cuz I've always heard that it's inappropriate to wear white, black or red to weddings. White and red compete for attention w/bride. Black is too funereal.

The one exception is for urban, evening weddings. Then one may wear a little black dress if it's "tasteful" (not strapless, plunging or mini). Still no white or red, though.

Not my rules...just what I've been told all my life. I say go ahead and wear a nice red dress if you want. If in doubt, you could ask the bride if she'd mind.

Can't see why it would be an issue. Our wedding colours were ferrari red & DHs auntie wore a red dress so she looked like a much older bridesmaid

I've heard the saying 'Red hat no draws' (as in knickers) but can't see why you can't wear a red dress?

The only thing I would say is a big no, no would be a floor length white dress!

I only thought of it as the cliche that an old flame (or new flame) of the groom turns up in a sexy plunging red dress and spends the whole event giving him sultry looks in a "It shoulda been me" sort of way.

This is from the days where the bride strove to look virginal and pure, so she couldn't compete with the siren/tart sort upstaging her.

Nowadays brides tend to want to look sexy too.

But basically if someone - not you OP - wanted to passive-agressively annoy the bride, coming to the wedding dressed in something inappropriate would be the way to go.

I've heard red and white flowers in the bouquet is bad luck too but the reason being it stands for the blood and tears of Christ.