To think certain horribly upsetting things should be restricted viewing on youtube?

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

I have honestly just been in tears for 10 minutes and had to try to explain to my 3 year old DD about stillbirth.

I put on a video of my cousins baby for her to watch and she must have clicked one of the related videos as she called for me saying ' look at this funny yellow baby mummy why are they so sad'

It was a video with very graphic pictures of a 23 week stillborn - properly heartbreaking.

I think you shouldn't leave your 3yo on youtube unsupervised.

Sorry, but what Morloth said. Why is a 3 year old unsupervised on Youtube. I'm assuming if you were standing there, you could have stopped your DD clicking anything else.

Yes I bet myself £20 that the first comment would be that. woohoo I win

She wasn't unsupervised she was in the same room on my laptop, for less than 5 minutes

I don't think youtube is really the place to allow a child unsupervised internet access

Agree, keep them away unless you're in charge of the mouse. Once they can read, they'll find that lots of perfectly harmless clips have hundreds of obscene comments appended to them. It's a bit of a minefield.

So you knew she was going to open a link about stillbirth? How did she do that if you were watching with her?

If you knew the first comment would be that, why did you bother asking?

The internet doesn't care about your little girl, it isn't going to be made to care, you have to do it yourself.

umm well if you weren't sat with her to stop the video/clicking on the link then = unsupervised

Oh come on, Morloth, it was a mistake. I doubt very much that DWP sits her daughter infront of it regularly (though my DD watches episodes of Kipper whenever she can bribe me)
I agree that youtube should have limitations - it's getting out of control.

Given they have put non graphic births and even some breastfeeding videos into the restricted access content I would hope this would fall under such things.

Still, lesson learned.

i dont know.....i've seen some horrific things in my time,as a police officer. all sorts....but it was all dealt with properly.

i looked at the luge accident and was told when the bad bit was coming,but i looked anyway and was horrified....disturbed me for days!

come on everyone....kids click on stuff it happens,op,i thought you'd get these comments too! take no notice....

but to answer your question,i dont know!!

Was it a tasteful set of photos and music remembering the little baby?

If so, i don't see anything wrong with that being on youtube. DSs and i have been to charity events organised by the mother of a stillborn little boy and there are pictures of him on the tables etc.

Shrug, I don't want DS watching unsuitable material, so he doesn't get unsupervised access to the internet.

No problem with it being a mistake, but I don't really think it is up to the rest of the world to adjust because someone else's toddler was allowed to do something that she shouldn't have been.

youtube isn't a children's entertainment channel! My 3yo ds loves watching animal videos on youtube - I always preview them & sit with him while he watches. Frankly I don't see why other people should censor legal content so I can be less vigilant.

I also jut don't understand why anyone would make such a video?

though am in no place to comment on dealing with such grief

Who knows, but it isn't illegal and shouldn't be restricted.

I'd hazard a guess that they are looking for recognition of the enormity of their loss. To memorialise & celebrate the existence of the loved child that they will be able to do very little else for - no birthday/christmas/first day of school memories.

I try not to question how people grieve - you found it distressing, it is distressing ... but it is a life altering event for the family involved & imo if their actions are legal then then it doesn't matter how distasteful a complete stranger finds them.

I have had a similar loss & didn't feel that kind of memorial would be useful to me - but many do. DH & I chose to keep our son at home the night before his funeral - I know lots of people thought that was horrifying but fuck 'em.

I'm posting on an empty thread...but I had read it and was about to reply before mn went all shonky. Soooooo...

I would have thought its pretty easy to spin sad/unsuitable things into something else for a 3yo?

Fair enough if you wanted to use the opportunity to explain about stillbirth but I wouldn't have.

I ahve a mentalist neighbour who shreiks and wails at all hours of the day and night - I could ust the opportunity to explain to ds about depression/MH issues but I dont, I tell him she is a reeeeeeally bad singer.

I found a Hansel and Gretal story about vaginal dryness mixed in with a load of childrens stories today. How bizarre!

i love that word jeremy 'shonky' did you just make it up??

Ooh no! Good though innit?
I may have pinched it from someone rough... like Danny Dyer.

I'm not sure that stillbirth is necessarily inappropriate content though? Sadly stilbirth is a fact of life, it's not like violence or murder or an horrific accident that results in a dead body.

Having said that, I am baffled at why anyone would want to put something so private on the internet for anyone to see. And no I don't get the mimorial thing - you can take a video without having to make it public property.

Goes particularly well with Proper.

"Urgh...my guts! That kebab was Proper Shonky"

I let DS watch videos of fireworks on youtube (when he was having a stage of being obsessed with them) and in a few clicks he had got from videos of firework displays, to videos of how to make your own fireworks, to videos of how to make your own explosives