to be cross when my DD1 came home crying because she was punished for no reason at school?

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She goes to a very academic independent girls school and is incredibly upset because a bunch of girls (who don't like her) have told tales on her.

I know I sound biased but I really believe she's telling the truth but don't know how to help her.

Anyone had a similar thing happen and what did you do?

Have you made an appointment to discuss this with her class teacher? It sounds as though you need more information (and perhaps the school do, too), before you can deal with this constructively.

I would talk to the teacher to see if you can get the whole picture.

I would drop an email to class teacher and see if she can shed any light.

IME one never gets to the bottom of who said what to whom. Better to equip her with strategies and make some more friends.

how old is she?

more background needed. age, what was the made up allegations etc.

Agree - you need to talk to the class teacher about this.

School stuff needs to be dealt with by school and they need to know how upset she is so that they can help her.

So Sorry - internet crashed and could only log in now!!

She's 7 and I agree with giving her strategies to cope. Have already had to speak to various Heads of dept and teachers but to no avail. AAARRGH!!!!

They've already punished her and all the other kids are talking about it. She feels very isolated and can't understand what the point of being good and honest is if you get in to trouble anyway.

School have said they've made their decision and we have to accept it and threatened to expel her because of our concern! Feels really unfair and as though we are being manipulated to keep it under wraps.

Thanks for all your help

Threatened to expel her???

Sorry, but this doesn't ring true to me. I can't imagine a school threatening to expel a child because parents queried one punishment. It sounds as if she did something quite serious, or there's more to the story than you're letting on?

They want to expel a 7 year old?

Can you say exactly why?

expel her?

there must be far more to it.

They said a bunch of children were discussing private parts, snogging and poo. That's all the info I have.

She was the only child whose name came up 3 times as a result they could only punish her.

Also, because I refused to speak to the teacher who punished her they said I was being childish and over-reacting.

AIBU - please tell me if I am because I feel like a nutcase dealing with this!

Sorry but I do think you were BU in reusing to speak to the teacher. That's what is needed imo.

I'm confused: why did you refuse to speak to the teacher? How on earth did you expect to sort things out by instigating a game of chinese whispers with the school hierarchy?

Sorry if I sound harsh but you're not really adding up here. 7 year olds discussing poo and private parts is perfectly normal, I can't imagine that's a big deal to any teacher.

Why didn;t you want to speak to the teacher?

Nobody gets expelled for talking about poo. This all sounds very odd.

I accept that may have been rude

I have a meeting tomorrow to sort this out properly and will report back.

What? Punished for talking about rude things?
At seven years old? There's got to be more to it...

hang on so talking about poo gets you expelled???

ohhh can i be expelled from being a mummy then? i could do with a small break poo pooo poooooo pooooooo