to be a little miffed.....

[lumpasmelly]

...that my "in-laws" can't come down to look after DS1 (5 yrs) and DS2 (2 yrs) while I have my planned induction because my FiL has been given tickets to see Derby County play Crystal Palace the next day (as a birthday present).....

Unfortunately the date for the induction(which I don't have any control over as its NHS)falls in the Easter holidays when ALL of the people that I could probably have left the kids with appear to be on holiday, so we are a bit stumped for childcare.

I know that my in laws are retired and they have their own lives etc and I shouldn't "expect" them to do stuff for us, but they were so keen to be there for the birth.....DH offered to get him tickets for another match, but he says he doesn't want to offend DH's sister who had bought him the tickets for his birthday......(P.S> FiL isn't a big football fan or anything like that - it would be more understandable if he was!!!)

What do you reckon (but please be kind, as I am very pregnant and very hormonal at the moment!!!!....and trying very hard not to appear annoyed with them!)

Have you got any family on your side?

YANBU

YANBU

I would be well pissed off. Can granny come on her own to be joined by grandpa after the Big match?

Or I would call S-i-L and say since you've given out-laws tickets for the match on the day their grandchild is due could she come and help out?

I think if they decided to go to the match after you informed them of the induction date, that would be annoying and a little thoughtless on their part, but if not, then there probably isn't much they can do, as annoying as that is.

I got 'miffed' when on returning from an appointment at the hospital because I was having complications, hubbie announced on the doorstep, BEFORE asking if I and the baby were OK, that 'We've got Milan in the draw' and had already booked tickets and flights for THREE DAYS before my due date. Grrrr... b**y football.

Are your in laws joined at the hip? Could your mother-in-law not come down alone?

My family are in Singapore and have planned to come 2 weeks later to help out (non flexible tickets and dad still works so difficult to change plans). Ironically they would have come down for the birth, but it was agreed that in-laws would do it as they are closer, and they REALLY wanted to be there (house not big enough for everyone).

MiL doesn't want to travel on her own (despite the fact its only a 2 hour car journey and she is hardly infirm!!!)

SiL and BiL are both going to the match too - though thats a cunning thought as i am sure SiL will be horrified to think that her gift is causing so much trouble (she is great, and very understanding....) She might be able to persuade FiL that its ok to miss the match (especially as DH can probably get him any ticket to any other match he wants as he has "connections" with the premiership...)

I am sure we will resolve it....its just irksome as I really thought that baby might trump footie!!

I'd call SIL and say that you wouldnt normally call her over something like this but that you are worried sick over having no care for your DCs while you are in labour and that the ILs are so worried they will upset SIL that they dont want to change their football plans to do it.
SIL I am sure will offer to speak to the ILs and reassure them that she wont mind him not attending in the slightest... you can buy him a replacement ticket, problem solved!
YANBU to be miffed though - I'd be VERY miffed!

Can you send the kids to them instead?

YANBU at all.

I know how you feel though. My BIL wont come look after the DC's as he doesnt want to interrupt his sleep if it happens at night. DH got mad at him and now he has refused to do it at all. Never mind that there is no other family and we will have moved house a few weeks before so wont know anyone or have time for the DC's to get used to a babysitter!!!
my sympathies|!! A very stressful time!!