To not want to go home

[ray81]

Ok have been staying at my aunts looking after her house whilst she is away, it is a lovely 5 bedroon house lots of space and easy would you believe to keep clean.
She is back tomorrow so i went home today to drop some stuff of, my dh has been there all week and if i said it looks like a bombs hit it it would be an understatement, i nearly cried because i have to go home and do a massive clean and i am 7 months pg. He has also had the car too and has had the dog in it all week so there is hair everywhere so i have to clean that out too.

I am so angry at him being so inconsiderate and want to hurt him (know thisis hormones talking)

so AIBU to not want to go home

YANBU, tell your lazy-arsed DH to get it cleaned up before you return!

Tell him you're checking into a hotel (using his credit card) and you'll be home when he's cleaned up his mess. If he's managed to make the mess all by himself, then he should be big enough to clean it up. You're not his mother!

Not unreasonable at ALL! Have you told him how you feel?

Don't get why you have to do it at all?

Book a cleaner for the house and a valeting service for the car - using his credit card.

YANBU

you do not have to go home and do a massive clean at all (but tragically I know you will)

He knows full well how i feel about have a clean and tidy house, and sometimes he does try but putting the hoover on and leaving it in the middle of the room will notget rid of the mess!!!

Ive said to him a few times on the phone and hes like yeah yeah i willand then wont.
He told me he had cleaned the bedding yesterday and he did but then hadnt put it or any others on the bed so now there are feathers everywhere, did washing is in screwed up ball so needs ironing badly. Dishcloth was nowhere to be seen, fat all over the sides and dog hair like everywhere. I have other things getting to me, tools ALL over the house things he has moved, for example old telly that needed to go into garage, bits of coveing and wood into front room weeks ago and still hasnt done it, but will spend all day in the garden cleaning that up. Because that realy needs doing (sarcastic emotion).
i just dont know how to get through to him.

And you are having a baby with this man, sounds like you already have one.

And you are having a baby with this man, sounds like you already have one.

Make that twins....

Stay put. If that doesn't get through to him, nothing will!

Twins lol feels that way sometimes

good idea HQ am seriously considering it.

yes stay put if you can, tell him you'll come home when the house is up to Kim and Aggie's standards

dont go home and clean his mess or the dogs hairyness. Tell him that you are staying at your aunts until the house and car is the way you left it (assuming that it was clean and tidy)

oh - and tell him to grow the hell up, you are having HIS baby, he is NOT your baby and you are not his mother.

Alternatively, send him back to his parents place to live if he cant be arsed to clear up after himself.

Can you stay with your aunt till he cleans up?

So are you back yet ray?