To NOT be annoyed that ,y mum told her friend I would PROBABLY mind her cat at my home while she was on holiday?

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Without asking me first? Dh is not happy. He thinks that my mum should not have said anything untill she checked first.

But she didn't say to this person, "Oh yes dd will have your cat, drop it round at x time" Just that I probably wouldn't mind. I don't mind.

We already have one cat. I don't see what difference having another for two weeks will make.

My mum would have helped, but her cat is eeevil and would savage this new cat . My cat is lovely and will probably just move into the dds room for a few days and then accept that another new thing has joined our family and proceed to rub himself on said cat, untill he suitably convinced that new cat is now marked as his.

Besides which we are going away soon and my cat will not cope in a cattery.

Well, she was right, wasn't she? You probably won't mind. And you don't. You still have the option of saying no.

but I also agree with your husband in that although she was fairly non-committal, it would have been polite to talk to you first.

So say that to her. Next time ask me first.

YANBU. I don't care about this sort of thing either. I don't mind looking after people's cats (altho may object to dogs... too much work) or children or having them to dinner/to stay at short or no notice or whatever.

Don't mind a bit. Wouldn't mind if my mother offered to someone that I would help them out. In fact, she does do this quite often with both DB (dentist) and myself (solicitor). 'N will look at that tooth for you', 'E will review that contract for you'. And we do. It's fine.

Sounds fine. She didn't promise that you would, just made a guess as to your reaction if you were asked. If she'd said you probably wouldn't then teh friend wouldn't have asked you.

Well I think it's fine. DH is okay about having the cat, though not over the moon. But was pissed off that we were suggested before anyone asked us. I think it was dd1 that she was thinking of. Cat is only a kitten and dd1 has been very upset since someone stole her kitten from in front of our house.

YANBU!

I don't think its unreasonable to suggest someone might be able to help in a certain situation, as long as its clear that the person is allowed to say no if its not convenient.

And as you say - it might be very useful to cultivate a reciprocal cat minding arrangement with this person.