To be made to feel like a bad mother because I asked a question about bottle feeding?

[nougatness]

This is a rant sorry.
We attended our first parenting class on Friday. The subject was feeding.
When I asked the midwife who was running the class how long I should alternate between breast and bottle before switching totally to bottle, she snapped back, 'that babies are little humans and don't follow schedules and that I should be prepared to give up my job like lots of other mothers if the baby doesn't want the bottle'.
She then went on to shoot down in flames anyone who asked anything about bottles!
I am just pissed off that one woman who is supposed to provide support and guidance (especially to people like me who truly have no clue) can make me feel so guilty about the choices I basically have to make, not that I want to go rushing back to work after I just had a baby.
I don't want to go back to the other classes now as it has really made me get my heckles up.
Besides that, I still don't know the answer to the question I asked!
Thanks, just needed a rant.

I was going to ask the same, no bottles allowed where are you? Because I will make sure I steer clear of there, no matter how you feel about bf, effectivly taking away a womans choice on how she feeds her baby is terrible.

LUCKY 1979, No, I am currently in Oman, not the UK but the MW is British. Thank you for your advice, much appreciated, every little bit helps!!

Showofhands, I apologise for being sarcastic or rude. I was not aware of 'dripfeeding' info, just didn't want to write a 3 page synopses of the class and wanted the advice that I originally asked for and I am certainly not stirring or knocking other people's choices. Also was not aware that this post could be read as hitting 'hot buttons'.

Thank you for yours and other's advice on the bottles and breastfeeding thread and I will go there from now on.

I would not bother going back to that class tbh.

I had dd donkey's years ago where the maternity leave was a lot shorter, so went back to work when dd was 3months, and she went on the bottle. I BF exclusively for 3 months (apart of bottles of water for when she was thirsty, accprding to advice at the time) and there would have been no support for taking time out for expressing. I tried mixed feeding however my supply went to pot as was doing shifts.

Of course it is utterly ridiculous for the midwife to say that you need to give up work. It is none of her business and perhaps you need to tell her so.

And your child will not end up phscologically damaged or feel neglected by being bottle fed. DD is 14 now and is as well and fine as a child who was breasfted for a long time I would say.

You just have to do your best and waht suits you. Which may not be 'perfect' but, hey, get used to it.

nougatnee - I don't want to tell you what to do, but on past form this thread will run and run (it is a "hot" topic), and you might feel that you have to keep coming back on here.

So, if I were you, I'd post on Breast/Bottle feeding, and get this deleted.

This did not happen in the UK. Fortunately.

nougatness - clearly a midwife who 'snaps' and who makes personal comments about people's employment choices is not doing her job well.

Having said that, no one can 'make you feel guilty' without your permission