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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To not want a new telly

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nursenight · 06/03/2010 23:14

Aibu to be annoyed to come home and find dh and bil installing big new telly in front room. Paid for by bil. I had made it clear to dh i didnt think we needed a giant telly. Now noone is talking to me.

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DavidHappyDad · 07/03/2010 02:08

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solo · 07/03/2010 02:22

YANBU.

Fluffyone · 07/03/2010 08:57

I hate giant tellys. If you'd made it clear you didn't want one, they should have consulted with you before buying and installing one. You live there as well. YANBU

Firawla · 07/03/2010 10:08

i think yabu, if your dh wanted it whys it up to you to say he's not allowed to have it? he didn't ask you to pay
its only a telly, what exactly is your objection to it anyway

yellowcircle · 07/03/2010 10:20

Firawla - it's the OP's home so she ought to have a say what is in it (especially when it is such a large item). This is regardless of who paid for it.

However, OP, I think that this has been done now so you will have to try and get used to it. I think it was low of DH to do this when he knew you objected. Try and keep your BIL out of the row though. Is he just really rich? How is he able to just go and buy massive tellies for other people when they don't need them? He might feel you owe him thanks, even!

Fluffyone · 07/03/2010 12:12

If it's a giant telly it's probably dominating the living room and looking a right eyesore. My BIL did exactly the same thing, for his own home. He brought a giant telly without telling my sister, the bloody thing takes up the whole of one end of the loung. He's so pleased with it that it's constantly on, showing Sky Sport.

tartyhighheels · 07/03/2010 12:16

og big tellies are soo chavvy - poor you

we have a smallish one after months of protracted coversation

bernadetteoflourdes · 07/03/2010 12:20

YANBU am with all the way on this one and am veryon your behalf.

oldraver · 07/03/2010 13:48

Does the BIL live with you ? If so ask him to put it in his room

I dont like big tv's either, I have just bought a 32" and that is more than big enough. I would of had a 28" or 30" but I dont think they are available anymore

said · 07/03/2010 13:52

This would be non-negotiable for me. If it's too big, it'd have to go back.

weegiemum · 07/03/2010 13:53

YANBU. We have a 15 year old TV we were given as a wedding pressy - in proportion to our lounge, why would we want anything else.

U of your dh and BIL to install one without consulting you properly. Why did BIL buy it - is he usually this interfering?

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nursenight · 07/03/2010 16:38

i will get used to it i suppose. It annoyed me more as dh knew my feelings. Bil does not live here. He bought a big tv for dcs recently too. Enough tellys already.

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rookiemater · 07/03/2010 16:41

What is it about men and their desire for mahoosive televisions ?

We have just had our kitchen/dining room knocked through and DH has insisted on buying this humungous TV even though the rule is no television during meal times, so it never gets used.

belgo · 07/03/2010 16:43

YANBU. My dh has been going on about getting a flat screen TV for ages, but we have a perfectly decent TV set, and we are not replacing it until it is broke.

sarah293 · 07/03/2010 16:48

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rookiemater · 07/03/2010 16:52

I'm wondering if its a male size thing

MudandRoses · 07/03/2010 23:03

YANBU. i would be furious. Presumably it cost rather a lot and is coming out of the shared household budget?? I would spend the equivalent on something you really want.

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nursenight · 08/03/2010 09:54

thanks for replies, of course i am now accepting of the telly, i will get used to it. but i would have much preferred a table we could all eat our dinner on, AIBU to lay the telly on the floor and eat my dinner off it!
My dcs were also bought one by BIL recently so they are already goggle-eyed, why do we all have to sit round staring at this thing? My living room is TINY. not even enough room for the 4 of us to lounge comfortably. the telly we had was about 3 years old, flat screen, LCD etc wasnt a stone age telly. I will be the first to admit if there is a telly i will probably fall into watching it all day and i will watch any old garbage. i was trying to avoid this as much as possible. To me it takes over the whole room, Sat night DH fell asleep watching ITV2 (?) and i had to get up, go down and turn it off as the noise was keeping me awake!! I want us to do nice family things together, maybe TALK, now and again. Our old telly didnt take over!! Maybe IABU now, as i am really fed up. BIL has cash to flash obviously. Me and DH still not talking.

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ShinyAndNew · 08/03/2010 10:03

YANBU to not like them. But YABU to make such a fuss. It's just a TV.

Plus as Firawla said you don't want one, so it's not coming in the house. In what world is that fair? It would seem your dc and your dh did want one. And bil offered to pay so it's not like you have gone without.

I think our TV is too large for our living room, but DH wanted it.

Big TVs are great for playing wii on. Get yourself a wii and take over the tv

mustrunmore · 08/03/2010 10:05

YANBU.
After 5 years in this house, I've finally caved in and we have a telly in our bedroom. I hate it.

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nursenight · 08/03/2010 12:19

ok fair enough i am probably making too much fuss but i did thank BIL and i have accepted the telly is here to stay and i havent moaned at all to DH since my initial aghast reaction. but no way do i want a Wii!! we already have 2 xbox and playstation 1,2,and 3! i may have to take up knitting. i dont like being the bad guy in all this tho.

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MudandRoses · 08/03/2010 13:14

I would never let DH or DC have a tv in the bedroom. Over my dead body. I would get rid of the thing entirely if I had the strength, but it's often me that wants to veg out in front of Eastender after a long day.

When I spend time at people's houses, who don;t have tv's, I am always amazed and jealous at how much they get done, how much they talk to each other and have hobbies, and how not having a tv/wii etc seems to encourage creativity so much more.

lorelilee · 08/03/2010 13:22

Sorry girls, seems like I'm very much in the minority here - the bigger the better as far as I'm concerned. I'm more concerned by the fact you were happy for BIL to buy one for DC's bedroom. As far as I'm concered THAT is a bigger no-no.

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nursenight · 08/03/2010 13:41

i didnt want the BIL to buy the DC's a TV either! i have no say in this, which is what i said on saturday which started all this bad feeling!BIL is being indulged by DH or other way round.

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