to think she planning something?

[twisha]

my son's partner has said she wants him to go to the solicitors and sign a underlying agreement order for their child (1 yr old) so if he leaves,he has to take the child back.( she has had 2 other children and both of their fathers got custody of them) we ahve never heard of this and cant help thinking she's planning something as she's never shown any interest in any of the children before.

eh?

I don't understand by what you mean, "takes the child back". Do you mean you son keeps the child living with him? Or is she saying that if he leaves her then he has to give her residence of the child? I certainly wouldn't be signing anything about my child and arrangements for them if I didn't trust the other person, unless I was arranging something I wanted to happen in that contingency, anyway. Why on earth would anyone?

I do think it's a bit off though, if she is his current partner and they have a baby together, that he and his mother are talking in decidedly contemptuous terms of "we" about arrangements for their child. She's not his ex yet from what you say, but if my DH and MIL did this, he soon would be.

So they live together but she doesnt show ant interest in the child? Why would she bother getting him to sign this if so?

Sorry, I have flu and am not really on the ball. Last para should read:

I do think it's a bit off though, if she is his current partner and they have a baby together, that he and his mother are talking decidedly contemptuously about that partner, and in terms of "we" about arrangements for the child. She's not his ex yet, from what you say, but if my DH and MIL did this to me he soon would be.

ah you've posted before about this woman...i remember the thread!

is she getting a residency order?

ah yes, the woman that you think is mentally ill and has lost residence of her other children...

i think your son needs to get independent legal advice before doing anyhitng

they have had loads of rows,he has to take the baby where ever he goes as she doesnt want her left with her as she always has "things" to do, she said last week that if he decides to leave he wont get custody of the baby. now today she said she wants him to sign this agreement....last month she changed her whole name by deed poll to something totally different to what shes known by now, and yes they live together at the moment...but he's never heard of this "agreement" nor have we

Okay, sorry - didn't realise there was history. Would agree that he needs legal advice on what to do next. Rapidly (he does have Parental Responsibility, right?)

yes i have posted before about what was happening then,this is new things!!! he decided to just wait and see how things went with her, but theyve just got worse, there is no residency order yet as theyre still together at the moment, shes been very odd though, like as soon as anyone goes there eg hv, neighbour she just starts shouting at him to "get that baby out for a walk" so he duly goes. i think hes at the end of his tether, she throws his clothes out the window and tells him to leave if he wants to..but obviously he wont until he knows what to do about baby.

he has as much right to have the child live with him....she's lost custody of two,i have to wonder why!?!

he doesnt know,the boy was returned to her after that dad decided that he didnt want him either but ss have monitered her ever since,and only stopped after they done a indepth police check and crb on my son and then they said they didnt need to go there as long as he was there. the other child he was just told they mixed up the paper work.

chidlren don't get taken away form a parent due to a paperwork error

she has issues, and your son needs to find help

you had lots of advice on your other thread about where to find the help

your son needs to start acting fast

Totally agree with lulumaam.
Your son needs legal advice and fast.
I don't know how much good it will do but it may be also worth your son getting in touch with the social worker who dealt with them in the past and see if they are able to shed any light on the back story here and find out what is going on if he really is thinking about leaving her and obviously wanting what is best for his baby.

i agree too, but what is this "agreement" that he's supposed to sign, has anyone ever heard of this???

It doesn't matter what the agreement is at the moment as he should not sign anything till he has had legal advice.

i've never heard of this agreementm but i agree with other posters. he needs to get legal advice NOW (just in case she does something silly)