I am being unreasonable I know I am but I am allowed to be so there.

[bogie]

I have had the day from hell, dc's have played up all day, I am 8 1/2 months pregnant, have been having really strong BH, have SPD, have had to do 5 spreadsheets, 10 pages of business planning, dd ate a big peice of raw chicken earlier this lunch time and has had a temprature tonight, she won't take the calpol so I have had to force it down her whilst she screamed, all this while looking after me as + diabetic brother & cooking dinner for everyone.............. Dp has just rang he was supposed to be going out for a meal with work.... eating at about 7 and getting home for about 9.30 ... This is the phone call

Dp 'Hi just though I would see how you were doing'

Me '(dd screaming in the background) What do you want?'

Dp ' just letting you know we are going into the resturant now'

Me 'you said you were eating at 7?!?'

Dp 'well some people were late so just going in now won't be back till later'

Me '(trying my hardest to think of something constructive/nice to say) PISS OFF'

I know it is not his fault but I am just in a shit mood.

YANBU at all. Your DH needs to be with you and supporting you. In your shoes I would ring him back and tell him you need him home pronto and that it's non-negotiable.

Pooor you.
If you had told him you were having a tough time would he have come home?
CAn your brother put your children to bed for you so yuo can put your feet up?

My brother has sever autisum so he is just as hard work as the kids he has no language.

I have just put the kids to bed and I am starting to calm down a bit now I am going to eat lots of chocolate.

YADNBU and I think Piss Off was the perfect answer . I am presuming that he is a genrally good dh ?

Chocolate sounds like a perfect prescription .

Fill your boots wiht choccie
And put those feet up.

I'm sorry, I started to read your post and thought TROLL

NOT because I don't believe you but because the post is so unbelievable.

You poor woman, YAsooooNBU

Not so much its not his fault, if he knew all of this had ocurred throughout the day would he of come home?

YANBU Piss of is delicate, it would have been a lot worst if that were me. Chocolate is great, whats even better pull a sickie tommorow, you know we all do it when we just want to slob around for a day. Well at least I do, but my dh is really nice so if i pull a sickie he takes full charge of DD or takes her out to his mums or such so I can do nothing all day.

Yabu. He asked you how you were doing. He was courteous. You were rude. Understandable under the circumstances but I do think you owe him an apology. Sorry.

Piss off is not enough I would ask him to come home if it's possible. If you're 8.5 month pregnant and have to do all that it's too much!!! Well done to you, hats off. Tell your Dp that you've done enough and want saturday off! Sleep in have a long bath take a nap and have chocolate in between... you deserve it!

Oh, i can just see his face that was very restrained of you!!

Its a sad fact of life that we take our frustrations out on our nearest and dearest, the ones who should be last in line as they love us the most!
Explain to your dp what was happening and apologise - if he loves you he will forgive you and not mention it again.
If he gets sulky and distant - tell him to piss off again!