Today I changed my engagement ring without telling dp

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I had my engagement ring when I was pregnant 4 and a bit years ago, I wanted it was pregnant neede the assurance and security, since then had two babies.
Have not worn it and it was to big and decided to change it all to white gold, instead of two tone which I hated, he was not happy but I though tough I have to wear it and I still dont have a eternity ring or two or a wedding.

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Anyone please advise me aibu?

YANBU

well if you hated it i can see why.

i think i would have told my dp to go get another or chose one together.

Hmm, I'd say YANBU to dislike it, but YABU to change it without discussing it with him. Very bad form I'm afraid!

He said Im not buying you another ring, I decided I would telll him how I wanted to change my ring he mumbled I then got on and changed it and I will admit I love it Its like I have a new different ring.

If you hated it then changing it is fine. It might have been more diplomatic to speak to your DH before and chose a new one together.

what do you want advice on?? you've done it already haven't you?

personally i am a bit sentimental, so don't think i could have changed an engagement ring my dp had got for me.

if it were me i'd have asked if we could go and choose a new ring together as a "having a baby ring" or something lol

i think he'll be upset

Have you just changed the ring & kept the setting?
How did you end up with an engagement ring you hated?

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A Push Present is the cringingly horrible word for a having the baby ring.

lol @ push present. didn;t know there was a name for it.

my dp refuses to marry me, so i made him buy me "push presents" instead lol. i wanted a ring dammit!

ew @ push presents.

I can understand why he is miffed tbh. I know how it is when OH buys you jewellery you don't really like, but it's better to get their input on a new thing

I simply changed the yelloe gold to all white gold and had it put to the right size.
I did tell him before I did it he grunted which is his normal response, and I did not do it to becuase I wanted a eternity ring I really dont mind about not having one Im just happy to have him but with the ring the way I likew it, selfish I know.
Flame me I can take it arghh.

I couldn't have changed the ring DH proposed with, I'm a sentimental old fool. So I guess in that respect I think YABU!

I personally couldn't change my engagement ring BUT wouldn't say no if DH surprised me with a new one

YANBU you have to wear it!!

I recently changed my engagement ring, so I won't flame you.

He really cannot complain if he communicates with you by grunting.

YANBU to change the ring, he is BU communicating by the means of grunt. I would find that really hard.