to be upset at being 'defriended' on facebook?

[foreverastudent]

I know it's only a website and I shouldn't let it bother me but I do get a bit when I realise someone has defriended me on facebook.
This has happened 4 times in the past few months. I don't know why any of them did it.

If they didn't want to see my (not particularly frequent) status updates they could have just hidden them, surely?

Isn't it overkill to delete someone altogether?

Don't I deserve an explanation?

Are these people just insensitive s I should forget about?

I got rid of some people who I found, the more I got to know them, were really unpleasant. Some of our mutual friends found this difficult, not surprisingly. So it can be a bit of a minefield, but then again, people have the right to have their friends list exactly as they want it.

Why keep people you hardly know or like, just in case they are going to be touchy about it? You could hide people's activity if they piss you off, but I think that's ruder than just defriending somehow. You defriended them secretly ... that's so rude! Better to defriend up front, and if you can't be bothered being asked why, then you can block 'em an all!

And if you get defriended, well you just take it on the chin. You might not like it, but unless it's a valued rl friend or your sister or someone, it surely can't matter that much?

My fiend list is always fluctuating, I don't pay it much attention (I hardly notice now!). It is usually due to people who cancel their accounts then reinstate them.

I dislike the banality of Farcebook but it's also provided a great source of humour and adult contact at times.

I didn't mean adult contact as in norty by the way. Just adult as opposed to Dchildren

And it means I can keep in touch with my niece and nephew without going through my ex SIL.!

I deleted a few people recently because their statuses really pissed me off. ("Cheryl wonders why asulym seekers are spongers", "John thinks Britain should be for the British" etc.)I was gettnig so annoyed with it, I decided that removing them was the only thing I could do to get my b/p down...

Just to echo other posts, I've removed a few people from fb too. Usually because they were people from my past who I hardly know anymore and am never in touch with. Or because I found their constant status updates / game playing news annoying and irrelevant. It's never to do with my feeling negatively towards them as people though, and I'd be sorry if I'd hurt their feelings. Just me doing a bit of spring cleaning.

Just to echo other posts, I've removed a few people from fb too. Usually because they were people from my past who I hardly know anymore and am never in touch with. Or because I found their constant status updates / game playing news annoying and irrelevant. It's never to do with my feeling negatively towards them as people though, and I'd be sorry if I'd hurt their feelings. Just me doing a bit of spring cleaning.