to be annoyed with the school?

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Or more specifically DSs teacher?

He came home a few days ago sad because it was 'cake sale day' he says everyone had a hexagon coin (20p) and bought a cake.

He said he got half a cake because he had no 20p

We were not told to give him 20p! We had no idea,

DS has glue ear and often doesn't hear whats being said so may not have known himself.

And even if he did know how is a 5 year old supposed to be a reliable messenger??

AIBU to suggest to the teacher that she should put a 'message board' in the classroom window with any information we need to know on it?!

Agree with you, Feenie. Schools can't win. They try to do nice stuff for their kids and end up being in the wrong.

We send emails, paper copies, copies of lost paper copies, notices on class windows, posters on notice boards at gates, some word-of-mouth (but I still refuse to believe that any infant school will rely solely on that method) yet STILL have parents whingeing about "not being kept informed."

As someone said earlier, there's no way this event would not have been advertised more widely if it involved numerous parents sending in cakes for a sale.

And why is half a cake mean? Depends on the size of the cake, I guess. And who's to say the staff weren't taking a risk giving him even that, as there are parents who would storm in to complain that their child was given cake without their knowledge or permission and they might be allergic.... blah-de-blah.

Yes there is actually important information on the newsletters sometimes, not just blah blah blah...
Having done supply in several different schools it's the same everywhere, some parents are 'never told' and it's everybody else's fault.

YANBU. Our school does text messages and book bag mail so it works right from reception as all pupils choose a book and bring it home to read every day. Small children and word of mouth absolutely cannot be relied upon and as a working mum who isn't in the playground much I really value the texts and notes home. Really feel for your OP and your DS - I'd approach the governors about communication. Surely it would help the school if only to get a better OFSTED rating

"I can't believe a school treated a 5yo in this way."

No, nor can I. Which is why I'm sure there must have been other notifications that the OP missed.

Some schools are like this though, aren't they.

My son came home when he was four years old, telling me he had to take 20p into school, because the head teacher had told him in assembly he could buy a puppy if he wanted one.

Took me days to figure out that he was talking about POPPIES for Remembrance Sunday. And my DS was pretty gutted about the non appearance of a puppy in his life!