Do I tell the school or stay out of it?

[Enchilada81]

There is a boy in DS's class who sometimes walks home with us/ds.

The boy is quite troubled. His parents are constantly drinking, swearing, fighting etc.

I heard he was doing a few "bad things" on the way home from school when I wasn't there but I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and just told DS not to copy.

Anyway I think it's becomming too serious/dangerous to ignore really.

Tonight he threw stones at passing cars, called an old mad "old fuck face" and tried to throw a rock at an pensioners bungalow. He then picked up a beer bottle from the pavement and drank the contents. It could have been urine, it could have had drugs in it or god knows what else.

I dread to think what could happen to this boy if he carries on this way. Should I mention it to school or just keep out of it? I'm not trying to get him into trouble, I'm concerned he's going to make himself ill or get beaten up or something. Some of the stuff he shouts at passers bys is shocking.

Report to school.

I would definitely tell the school - as long as you are quite certain of your facts. Presumabaly you have witnessed everything you are describing? In which case it sounds as if someone has to intervene asap.

I'd be tempted to let the school know.

Are you telling him anything when he does this type of thing when you are walking with him/

I would mention something discretly to his teacher - chances are (with the background you describe) his family are known to the school and/or social services anyway.

He is at serious risk of harm (so to are the other children that may think it is big to be part of what he is doing out of school) and not forgetten the members of the public.

Mention it to the school, but not to other parents you know.

Pls report to school but also mention that you are of the understanding that his parents might have a drinking problem - the last thing you want is his parents taking it out on the boy if they are called by the school.

I think I would definitely let the school know. & more importantly I would be telling ds to steer clear. I think there is a serious issue if the boy is even happy to do it in front of you.

You must tell the school.

Tell the school. They will be aware of the child's background and will have the resources to get him the help he clearly needs. And if they are already dealing with him in one way or another, they definitely need to know about antisocial behaviour so that they can respond appropriately. Social services can only try and fix problems they know about, after all.

He really doesn't care less who is there. I've seen him throwing rocks at passing cars whilst his step mother stands next to him chatting to someone else. She was looking directly at him when he threw a stone at an old man's back as he walked past. She didn't bat an eyelid.

He picks stuff up off the floor and eats it also. I have gently told him before that he shouldn't do this and he replies very casually "oh its alright, I always do it". He doesn't think he's doing anything wrong.

I was in school one day and I heard a commotion in the coridoor. I saw the boy kick a teacher, shout "fuck off" to her and then storm out of school and walked off home! in the middle of the day. So obviously the school are aware of his issues.

Apparantly he was excluded from his last school for setting fire to a classroom.

They're 11 btw.

11 is way to old to be eating stuff off the floor, unless he isn't getting anything at home. I actually feel sorry for him, sounds like a ratbag but got to feel something major is going on at home.

I wouldn't believe the setting fire to the classroom line, most of the new classmates we had at school had those rumours started about them! But it sounds to me that he needs help and you need to tell the school

Schools quite often have their hands tied in these situations. All they can do is report it.

Feel very at the thought of this boy.

Oh God I think my heart just broke reading the op

I agree with everyone else. You must report it to the school.

I'd be thinking more along the lines of social services. Eating stuff off the floor

I'd let the school know. But there is only so much that the school can do from second/third hand information through you.
I would contact Social Services. Very disturbing that he's eating from the floor. I'm certain he's already known to them, but what harm can it do? The parent/s get investigated - so what? They need to be.

Poor lad.

I hope someone can step in and help him. If he continues like that, I think it's pretty clear what kind of an adult he will turn into. It's always so sad to see/ hear about children like that. They are not born horrible, they get messed up along the way.