to hate eating out with a baby and a toddler?

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I have DS1 2.4 and DS2 11 weeks. My kids are the only ones of thier generation so the rest of the family tend to carry on with 'grown up' things. Personally I hate going to restaurants and find the whole thing strssfull. DS1 will be bored in 5 mins, and DS2 gets fretty in the evenings.
DH has told me my negativity is draining and we never go out...
I know I'm a sleep deprived miserable cow, but I can't be on my own...??

2.4 and 11 weeks, lovely combination for an evening meal NOT.

11 weeks with any luck would sleep through lunch, 2.4 year old hard hard work, requires constant entertaining and max of an hour at the table.

Evening meal is not a good idea. However if your DH persists tell him you will gladly go provided he takes full responsibility for looking after both DCs, that will drain the positivity right out of him.....

YADNBU,mine are 2 and 4 and still a bit of a nightmare but getting better, still not a pleasurable experience...

Go out for lunch, just your immediate family for a trial run and see how you go. It will either boost your confidence or dh will see how hard it is for you.

As you say, your children are the youngest generation of the family. I reckon the elders have forgotten how stressful it can be going out to dine with 2 little ones (either that, or they didn't in their day)
I know exactly how you feel, and I am sure if you suggested to your family that perhaps if they were to visit you- as it's rather late for the children, then they would gladly do so. As they don't have children it would be the best option for all of you, and you would also be able to join in with conversations without worrying what X or Y are doing.
If your DH still insists on going out then next time assign all child-duty to him. Would he take sole responsibility so you can chat and relax and enjoy?

RookiematHowever if your DH persists tell him you will gladly go provided he takes full responsibility for looking after both DCs, that will drain the positivity right out of him.....

Well said, spot on!!