quick...before 3.10pm. AIBU to approach other mum?

[spybear]

Had to go and pick my DSfrom school today, his fingers were trapped in a door and he was hysterical.

He says another boy did it on purpose and wouldn't let it go when he was screaming, it is not first incident with boy, things have happened before, I am making app at school to speak to them.

I am up the school in half an hour to pick up my other boy, should I approach other mum or leave it to the school?

School first, definitely. Then see.

leave it to the school!

Do you know the other mum well? If not, I would let the school sort it out (but them I am a fraidy cat, and hate confrontation )

I would leave it to the school but ask to be kept informed about how it has been followed up with the parent.

Leave it to the school.

i think you should leave it to the school.i have had a mum approach me about my child before and i really didnt like it.i felt that as it happened at school then the mother should have spoken to the school about it and then the school speak to me.

no dont say anything, let the school deal with it in the first instance to your satisfaction.

hope your ds is ok, poor thing

Speak to the teacher, let the school deal with it in the first instance.
Good luck.

Leave it to the school. You have no way of knowing how this mother will react. Probably not in a good way if her DS is like this in general.

Just make sure the school actually do something!

It is best dealt with by the school IMO, although you would be quite reasonable to ask the teacher what they were going to do because you had concerns about this boys behaviour. Even if you know the parent well speaking to them yourself would only cause agro, don't do it.

Thats what I thought. DP is putting pressure on me, so is my other friend from the school.

Eeeeeeeeeek

No don't do that. Just for a second put yourself in the other parent's shoes. Someone comes up to you and says your ds is hurting their child. What would your reaction be?. would you necessarily believe them? Would you know how to react or might you lash out

If you do speak to the other parent, what is is it you want from them?

If you want them to get their son to stop hurting yours they can't actually do that as the hurting is happening at school and they aren't there so they can't physically stop it.

If you want them to tell their child off, they would need more than just your word (or tha of your son) for this before doing so (I know I would)

The best people to deal with this are the school. I would have a word with the teacher as soon as possible even if means waiting after school until he or she is free.

Tell the school is urgent and talk to the teacher now. I don't think your son should keep getting hurt but speaking to the other parents is not a good idea at this point I think

How old are they btw

Speak to the school and leave the parents out of this.

Their not the ones who have to do it though are they, so its easier for them to say that. She could go for you (hopefully not), but these days you never know.

I would be very pissed off though if someone did this to my DS. I hope your DS is ok.

I told the school rather than the other mum in my child's case - largely because i could not trust myself to be reasonable and level headed when discussing it with the parent

DS is 6, Im not going to do it. Thought everyone would agree with DP and friend and say I should.