to feel sad that my friends with girls are dis-cluding me and my DS?

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anti and post natal group have ratio of aroudn 6 girls to 3 boys...girls are now having girlie princess parties without the boys and even the mums are having coffee mornings without the mums of boys!

very sad feeling that ds isnt included anymore when he loves playing with the girls, dolls, teddies and mummy's and daddys

I know the feeling Boys are out there tho, having been there myself I would say ring round all your friends, if you organise it there shouldnt be any excluding!

And try and find those other boys....follow the noise

My dd is going to be 3 soon, and she is having a Princess party and guess what, all her friends are boys . Princess cake, princess plates, partybags the lot lol. No girls at all, we dont know any her age. Its going to be all good fun, lots of food for mums and kids lol.

oh yes there might be a girl joining us, but there are going to be 4 boys and mabey one girl if they can come.

YANBU and it is a shame, but I think the word you're looking for is excluding

It is a bit soon to separate, but it would come eventually-these groups come to the parting of the ways as DCs choose their own friends.

In our group of friends there are 2 girls and millions of boys... Maybe the opposite will happen once they're a bit older. Ho hum.

When they are very young ike preschool it does tend to be children of friends or nursery and gender differences are not apparent, but at school there is a bit of a natural gender divide, whereby kids can but not always gravitate to the same gender,I was an exception and used to play footie with the boys . Dont think a 8-9 year old boy would like to go to a girls Princess pampering party and have their hair done though not always.

I've got the opposite problem. In DDs reception class there are 16 boys and 4 girls. One of the girls is invited to everything, but the others (incl my DD) haven't been invited to a thing.

Its so sad. DDs birthday is coming up and even tho' I hate the places we are going to book soft play just so she gets some kids to come to her party - have even persuaded her not to have a theme, because they seem to go down like lead balloons .

It really is just one of those things, and there is nothing we can do about it.

I'm not surprised you feel sad about it. That is not nice at all. I would feel the same as you about it. No advice other than find some "real" people for coffee mornings etc.

This has happened to me too, over the past year. I've been left out of many an occassion I could have got to and I'm convinced it's because I have boys It's the mums of only girls who seem to be the worst - they predictably don't understand how boys play, and see deliberate nastiness where there is simply normal play. I've never let my boys hurt anyone and come down on naughty rough play like a tonne of bricks but the mums of girls just don't want to understand it seems to me. And I've also been cut dead by someone I thought was a dear friend but that's another story.

It's not that I mind the natural gender divide, but that women who I thought were my friends have turned out to be the patent opposite... And my son misses the two girls he was particularly close to, but it's so hard for me to call their mums and be hurt over again when they make repeated excuses...