to go on holiday without dp?

[thisisyesterday]

because he;s such a bloody misery? apparently going on holiday is sooooo stressful, and he hates it, and we has to watch the children all the time and he'd rather sit at home

so sick of it. every time i mention maybe having a holiday he starts pulling faces and going on about how awful it'll be.

I suggested i went by myself and he said no, because other people will think it's odd.

however, i want a holiday. and i don't want him there if he is just going to whinge the whole time and ruin it for everyone else.
he has already ruined my first holiday plan which was camping in sweden by letting me get it all planned out and then having a big "oh it's so horrible, oh it's so much stress" blah blah blah when i asked him for some input on booking ferries.

My DH does come on holiday ad "doesn't mind" it, but says he doesn't see why I "need" a holiday.

Answer is that if we don't go away I still have all the housework/ washing/ ironing/ walking dogs etc to do! While he can lounge around for 2 wks at Christmas, I am still working!

We have booked with friends this year- sorted out dates, the complications of organising 2 families to go together, finances etc...then on Sat night, after a few glasses (or so!)of wine, DH tells me he hopes I have organised insurance "just in case" his work schedule means we have to cancel

I told him that was ok- we wouldn't BE cancelling! the kids and I will be going, with or without him! He seemed a bit surprised, but I was really hacked off he would mention this now, just as I am enjoying looking forward to my first real break in years, having ok'd all the arrangements!

thisisyesterday - can I suggest that you TRY a holiday with a kids club?

I know you're not into them but it sounds as if your DH might like them. And maybe if he'd spent a large part of the day lying on a lounger reading (or whatever it is he likes to do) he might be keener on spending a few hours a day playing with the kids? I wonder if perhaps playing with the kids on hol has been turned into a bit of a chore for him whereas if there was a kids club - and hence an alternative - it wouldn't be?

I do think your DH is being a misery guts, and I don't think it would BU to go on your own, but surely if you could get a family holiday to work for you all (even if that means compromising by doing the kids club thing) that would be better.

i dunno minipie, he never seems to want to spend time with them!

we've only ever had 1 holiday with the children (just the elder 2), which was for 1 week last year.
so i don't think it has turned into a chore yet!!!

i am torn between saying look, just step up to the mark mister. they're your kids, and they (and I) deserve a break and I deserve some help with them, or saying "just forget it, we'll go and you can stay here and not ruin it for us"