Bit of a sensitive issue, and may be seen from both sides, i'm open to all opinions but i dont think i feel i'm being unreasonable.
Long story short, BF's DH cheated on her while she was pg with her last baby. He left to be with the woman he cheated with, got his gf pg before his DW gave birth.
Lots of their argueing etc went on through FB which i didn't think was the place really as everyone could see.
Fast forward a few months and he wants my friend and their DC's back, but didn't want to leave the gf while she was pg. Expected friend to wait around waiting for him. There was poroblems with his gf's baby and she was stillborn. Pictures have been put on fb of the baby, along with about a weeks worth of name announcments before the birth when they knew what was going to happen.
He is still friends with myself and DH, and also still friends with his DW on there. The pictures showed up on all of our 'most recent' updates. I mean i respect what he's going through, but feel it's a bit insensitive to his DW to put things on there when he expects her to get back with him in a couple of months. I also feel it's insensitive to his GF who has just gone through all of this too.
I actually think it's a little disrespectful to his baby who has been the epicentre of all this turmoil. The poor baby had her birth anounced on FB... then photo's- i feel something so sensitive like this should be kept quite private between him and his GF and their families. In a few months maybe i'd feel differently if it was used to raise awareness etc, or to share memories with their closer friends... but to put it on as full public display within hours of her birth.
My friend feels so bad that she's had to see his other baby, she didn't want anything to do with all that at the moment, he'd been lucky that she was thinking of taking him back. She was hoping him and his gf could get over what happened to their baby and then maybe she'd take him back.
This is really hard to write- and i'm not intending to upset anyone, i'm just trying to get it all out of my head and written down the best i can. I know it's a delicate subject- and i'm sure IANBU in thinking FB isn't the best way to go about sharing the news they've had...
Jury's out....