My PIL invited my DH, DD and I to a 'do' at a hotel 4 hours away from us. It's a long lost cousin of MIL's having a party to celebrate his retirement....
They have asked us to stay at the hotel for the night, people are arriving at 5pm for a party at 7pm - not sit down meal or anything, just music, buffet etc.
When we said that DH and I could come along, but we would probably leave DD behind, we were basically 'uninvited'!! (We thought we'd leave DD as it's a loud party, and pointless as I would have to get dressed up for all of an hour then go upstairs for the evening, feed her, put her to bed etc - I wouldn't feel comfortable coming back to the party with a baby monitor, as MIL suggested as it's a huge hotel, and just my choice)
I think they're really rude! If it were close family who had travelled a long way to see DD I would make the effort, but it's very distant family member having a knees up, and PIL basically want to parade DD (Ok, but I'm not travelling 4 hours there and back with steriliser, travel cot etc etc to act as child minder - just show them photos of her!!)
What do you all think?