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AIBU?

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To think it's not all about YOU?

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Floopy21 · 26/02/2010 15:57

There seem to be so many threads about things like 'Can't Believe she hasn't thought of MY children at her wedding' or 'How can she have a birthday party at this time knowing I can't make it?' Thing is, even though you may be disappointed with the arrangements, it's not your celebration, you work round whoever's wedding/birthday/funeral/christening/etc it is. So AIBU?

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MrsMontague · 26/02/2010 16:07

Round of Applause from me...i completely agree.

tummytime · 26/02/2010 16:10

Could you do some links as otherwise your op is a bit vague.

Sometimes it is unreasonable to expect people to change their arrangements to cater for you (e.g distant cousin having strop about no over 1yo children at child-free wedding) and sometimes it is absolutely not UR e.g expecting people to give up a substantial amount of holiday and money to join in your celebration and (here is the important bit) having a strop if they mention it might be a bit tricky.

SpeedyGonzalez · 26/02/2010 16:10

Floopy, I can't believe you didn't think of my feelings before starting this thread.

Hullygully · 26/02/2010 16:13

I think you'll find that everything is in fact about ME.

And I don't agree, we should all work together for love peace and harmony and be accommodating where possible. Tis the civilised approach. Unless you don't care if people like you or not.

swanandduck · 26/02/2010 16:15

Well said, Floopy. Thumbs up.

tethersend · 26/02/2010 16:16

I don't care if people like me or not, as long as they are thinking about me. Constantly.

WhoIsAsking · 26/02/2010 16:16
tethersend · 26/02/2010 16:17

Ironically though Floopy, this thread is now all about you.

Hullygully · 26/02/2010 16:17

It depends if you want people to watch you celebrate, in which case fine, those that can come do, those that can't don't, or whether you want them to be part of it and celebrate with you, in which case, you have to be a bit accommodating and flexible.

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Floopy21 · 26/02/2010 16:19

I can't possibly do links, 'tis vair bad form! Plus, they'd get all stroopy that I was slagging their thread off!

Hully, I'm like Marmite, either you love me or hate me...fuck when the party is

Agree with Tummy's time & £ point though.

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Hullygully · 26/02/2010 16:19
Hullygully · 26/02/2010 16:20

Marmite is really really horrid. I wouldn't go to a wedding with marmite sarnies.

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Floopy21 · 26/02/2010 16:20

Tethers, it's not all about me, it's about all of MN's wise 'AIBU' opnions....come on, judge me better!

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tethersend · 26/02/2010 16:22

It's not about me, it's about what you think about me.

KurriKurri · 26/02/2010 16:25

I'd love marmite sarnies at a wedding, its always yuck stuff like crab.

[I may have missed the entire point of this thread]

swanandduck · 26/02/2010 16:25

i don't want you to think about me, I want you to think exactly the same as me. Otherwise YABU.

SpeedyGonzalez · 26/02/2010 20:36

We had Marmite sandwiches at all six of my weddings; what's wrong with that?

Coldhands · 27/02/2010 07:23

Floopy21

"I can't possibly do links, 'tis vair bad form! Plus, they'd get all stroopy that I was slagging their thread off!"

I know one of the threads you are talking about is mine.

I do not think that my friend should be thinking about ME in her birthday celebrarions at all, that was not what I was saying! I was simply stating that I would rather go on a girly night out with my friends than go to a 60th birthday party with 100 people, most of which I will not know, but I know that family comes first and I 'have' to go to FILs party.

I think it is bad form that you are slagging my thread off when I was not saying at all that my friend should be considering me and not once did I imply that.

Coldhands · 27/02/2010 07:25

So with that YABU.

However you have a point with the wedding ones and stuff. Weddings should be about the people getting married and thats it. If people don't want children there, that is up to them. My MIL has told us that her 2 GC are not invited to FILs 60th party which is fine as I wouldn't be taking DS anyway.

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Floopy21 · 27/02/2010 23:55

Coldhands, I have no idea what you're talking about, there are a plethora of these things about. Link please.

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