to have a baby list?

[Alicetheinvisible]

I know there is quite a strong opinion on gift or wishlists on here, which i generally agree with tbh, but i am wondering if it may be a good idea in this case.

My DD is 2.3yrs and when i was pregnant with her we got given loads of stuff. Mostly hand me downs, which we were very grateful for. I have kept what we wanted and passed any other stuff onto other people who needed/wanted it. That was fine. My mum would have another bagful of stuff everytime we saw her (before DD was born) and it got a little out of hand.

I am now 16weeks pg with dc2 and my mum has already told us she can't wait to go shopping once we know the sex of the baby. She doesn't have a job, and has 2 children that are classed as SN so just gets the relevant benefits. I don't want her spending loads on us when we don't need it iyswim? Plus she tends to get loads of outfits which never get used because we keep them in babygrows most of the time.

So, AIBU in considering writing a list of things we need and if anyone asks what we need or want for the baby suggesting things off the list? If it is another girl we will literally need nothing. If it is a boy, a couple of babygrows not in pink would probably be a good idea

I was going to come on and say of course yabu, lists are vulgar, blah, blah, but no. Sounds fine . If CLOSE people ask, then nothing wrong with making a suggestion. We are in the same position - mu mum is going to buy moses basket, the ils a wee buggy, etc.
However, I wouldn't be comfortable asking frineds for things unless you relaly know thier budget. SOmetimes 'is there anything you want/need' is a polite thing to say, but the person doesn't really want to hear something too expensive, iyswim?

Baby lists at stores are vulgar though - this is not at all.

GOod luck with the rest of you pg - hope it is not too arduous. It is harder second time round.

A general list of things you need/would like, which you can reel off if someone asks, is fine.
An itemised, printed list, with brands and prices next to each item is not.

IMO it is ok to make general suggestions like "we'd really like some things in bigger sizes, we've got loads of newborn clothes already". But remember that lots of people love shopping for baby things - don't take that pleasure away from them by being too prescriptive. And don't give them a list, just verbally tell them a few ideas. Suggesting a gift for your DD is a good idea if you have loads of baby stuff.
The only times I would say exactly what you want is if someone offers to get a really expensive bit of kit (pushchair etc).

When i say we need nothing, we literally would only need a few more baby grows/vests/socks iyswim? Everything else we have already.

Never occurred to me that people would suggest big things for other people to buy them Big things we need include an electronic breast pump and a sheepskin for the buggy - both v expensive.

Nicky yes it is harder this time

Nothing wrong with having your own lists noted down so that if anyone asks what would be useful you can tell them, but it would be horrid if you listed other things and IMO it's not on to suggest someone buys you something expensive like an electronic breastpump or other expensive item.
Having a baby isn't like having a wedding list

I was ready to come in guns blazing saying YABU but having read your post it makes sense to make a small, personal list that you can suggest to family etc if they ask you what you need.

So in this case YANBU

Hehe Norma, got you! I hate the very idea of 'wishlists' but was just wondering the best option here. Maybe i should get some lovely little cards printed with scan on the front and a drop down list, what do you think?

LOL Alice hhmmm very tasteful