To Expect DS's Teacher Not To LIE?

[BooHooMonkey]

I am not happy. I picked up DS from school today to be met by his teacher.

She was not happy yesterday because we took him to see his terminally ill grandmother for what could be the last time. And took him out of school ( though he is 4.5)

That's not really the point, just providing some context in case you tell me I ABU.

She told me "I see DS has a scrape on his nose." I agree yes, he went to school with a scrape on his nose after mucking about with his cousins.

Fast forward an hour later, DS is eating dinner, and his nose looks swollen. I ask him "what happened to your nose?" thinking he's knocked it again while at school.

He replies "So-and-So punched me in the face, but it's alright Mummy I told my teacher."

AIBU to think that DS's teacher is deliberately covering her back? He is a typical little boy , always going in with scrapes and bruises but this is the first time she has commented like this.

I would like to be kept informed if someone punches my little boy inthe face FFS, at least in that part I will declare IANBU.

Firstly, you don't know whether any of this was true (the being punched in the face). Secondly,why would she not tell you about him being punched to "cover her back"? It wasn't her that hit him.

Sorry to hear about your Mum or MIL. Sounds like you need to have a quiet word with the teacher, explain what ds said and ask her what she thinks happened - and why she didn't tell you. Teachers can't see everything that happens in the class but odd that ds says he told the teacher and yet she was so weird with you. (Maybe ds told the TA?)

I may have sounded a little harsh there. What I really meant to say is what edam said.

Why don't you just go in tomorrow and say, 'Just wanted to ask about the punching incident yesterday - did you see what happened by any chance?' Then she will either have to 'remember' or you can 'remind' her of it.

That's less confrontational than suggesting she lied or covered anything up.

thanks for your replies. Sorry, what I should have said in OP is that usually, if I ask DS, 'how did you get this boo-hoo?' he will say , "oh, don't know" or "I fell over at school".
He is always scuffing himself up, which is why I beleive him.
In fact thinking about it, once he came home from school with a big gash on his face, he told me a little boy pushed him off the bike, but it was his fault as it 'wasn't his (DS's) turn anymore.

I am reading my posts back and they are sounding very PFB, I don't think i am describing this very well.

He sounds like a sweetheart hope you get to the bottom of it.

this reminds me of the time ds1 got hurt at school once and when I went to collect him (school had called me) the receptionist tried to imply that his lip had already been cut - ie before getting hurt at school - was bizarre.

So sorry about grandma, you could really do without this stress on top of that. my advice would be to relay to the teacher what your child has told you and see what she s says, I have had to do this several times, as parents will leave are children in the schools care and when situations like this occur we have a right and a DUTY to are children to get to the bottom of it, there is no need to go in guns blazing just ask for a quiet word repeat what your child has told you then wait for a response and take it from there, I'm sure you will get it sorted.

Moffat, thankyou, it feels like that, it just all feels wrong. I have had the teacher say to me before "We think he may have bumped his head today" and I have said , "No, I'm pretty sure he did that at home".
But, like the previous example, when he came homw with a big gash on his face, we didn't get a word.
Can I change this thread title to AIBH? or am I Being Hormonal?

fishing, x posts, thankyou too!