Update about DD and being miffed that her nursery is saying she may have sN

[pigletmania]

UPDATE, DD went to the nusery today and did everything that they said that she could not do. She sat down quietly for registration, she sat down for storytime and was asking for the toilet. When i went to pick dd up i noticed that she was speaking so much and the staff were very pleased with her, that is why when SN and SENCO was mentioned i was a bit dubious about it as i know what dd is capable off. Its like she picked up on it and wanted to prove them wrong. I am pleased, and i told her that she was a good girl, and she said that she sat still. That is why i want to take a wait and see approach. When she goes to the new nursery full time i think that she will imporve so much, it will be regular every day so she will get used to the routine and whats expected of her. I am Though i will look out for SPLd especailly once she gets older and learns to read and write s that is what i have.

Her behaviour is fine too, no violence apart from that isolated incident.

Thats great to hear. Well done to your daughter. She seems like a normal little girl.

Thanks if you read my op for the other thread i was very worried but its like she wanted to prove that she could do all those things.

Thats great news about your dd !
But if it was proven that she did need extra help ,it would be important to her education/coping with school that she gets it.
If help is arranged for her , and it isnt needed then it will stop. Id take anything thats offered tbh, because children learn much more before the age of 5-6.
Theres no harm in making sure your dd has the best education possible for her , and it should start in the nursery. .
I totally understand your concerns , but sometimes SN or SEN can be a tempory thing, some children "catch up" (depends whats behind the sn/sen though).

Thanks drlove i think at still only 2.11 she is still young and will catch up in time especially once she is going to nursery full time soon and is in a consistant regular routine. I will be open minded but at the moment i am just going to let her be and see what the new nursery says when she has been there for a bit, and not to be quick with saying its SN when it may not be and jus tmay need time to develop.

DD is very stubbon and does what she wants to do when she wants to like most others of her age that is why i just want to see and see what her new teachers will say after they have seen her for a bit.

If you have concerns yourself pigletmania , id be more likely to agree with the sn/sen stuff. But you dont seem to have any about your dd at all.
The first thing on the road to SN stuff with my DD4 was when she was quite young , around 12 months and i mentioned to the HV that she wasnt doing stuff that my other kids had at the same age.
Try not to worry about it too much , 2 year old are often stubbon , its called the terrible twos ! .
When do you see the new teachers?

No I dont,I think that a parent always has an instinct or gut feeling but i dont have, i know that given time and consistancy she will be fine. Of course if it is discovered that she does need extra support i will of course be happy for her to recieve it, we all want what best for our dcs. Yes i was saying to myself most of the way through her twos how good she was and i dont think she will go through that, than at the end i spoke to soon and the tantrums and stubboness came. Her favourite phrase if asked to do something is 'NO' no thank you, 'NO no thank you

or i dont want to and throws herself to the ground.

Exactly small, i was a 'late developer' and had spld, at school they said that i would not amount to much and did not get support at school. It was when i left school at 18 and went to college that i was assesed and given the help that i couldhave had at school. I have completed a BA and MSc in Psychology so there you go.

Sounds like she`s got your "line of develpoment" iykwim.

development .(i think) .
anybody got a spare dictionary?

Yes Drloves

lol x

Have just read this and your other thread.

Yes it does sound like you do have a stuborn one on your hands .

Nothing wrong with her, she knows exactly when/how to wind up the grown-ups .

Totally agree with you, all children develope at their own pace, they are not robots.

Well done your DD for showing up the teachers who said she couldn't do.

Thanks magic i think so, if it was part of SN she would find that diffiuclt, and its not the first time i have picked her up and saw her sitting down listening to a story on my arrival. What the hell are they talking about. The children there range from 2-4 which is a very broad age range, and a lot are there full time and so get to know the routine and what is expected whereas dd is only there for about 4 hours a week as thats all we can afford, when she is 3 soon she will go full time at another location.

"That's great to hear. Well done to your daughter. She seems like a normal little girl"

OK so I might get flamed for this, but I hate this word when regarding children with disabilities, just because they have a disability does NOT make them UNNORMAL!

and breathe...........

Your right LMH I am not keen on the term either, mabey the person could not find the right term to use.

Maybe, piglemania, to me the OP dd is developing at her own pace, when she is ready. Not when a tick box criteria tells her so, last time I checked babies didn't read books.

(example) lol

Well LMH the nursery manager said that the Early Years curriculum has criteria and they have to tick off if certain skills that the child can do at that age. Woe betide any child that falls outside these criteria. Children are diffreent and can reach milestones at differing times not those set by the curriculum. Of course if it becomes more pronounced and its obvious that something may be up than yes SENCO should be involved and the child get the help they need. I am not saying that dd might not need help in the future as she might well do, but at the moment she is doing just fine.

I know pigletmania, I never suggested otherwise and I am in agreement with you, your dd is very little atm, and I for one would wait until she is in compulsory education, where she has development her mind frame and physical abilities, to then get a more clearer understanding.

I hate the EYFS, that children must "meet" in order for the pre-school to know they are reaching targets, to prove a point to the LA, it just does not sit right with me, children are still developing and all children differ in there development abilities. Its nice to know they are taking a concern with your dd tho and doing there job properly, but I dislike babies especially so young to meet targets they are just not ready for. x

Exactly LMH they are only little, babies in fact and so you cant really get a clear picture imo until a little older. Just government dictates, they even want to assess babies development fgs how! Will parents be requied to tick boxes and do NVQs and be registered to look after their own children. Leave them alone to enjoy their babyhood it goes too quickly.