to think that accepting this request is going to open up a whole world of pain?

[sevenkeystomysoul]

While I share the details of DD's life with ex, I try to keep mine to myself. His attempts to find out where I'm going, what I'm doing etc are met with a vague 'oh you know, this and that'. Now I've received a friend request on facebook from his son, arrrgh! Don't want to be rude to his son but I know that if I accept, ex is going to be party to my friends and a lot more information than I'm willing to share with him in 'real life'. Hmmmm, AIBU to ignore the request? I know he'll ask me about it, should I just lie and say I didn't get it and hope he'll forget all about it?

dont accept it!!

just click ignore and say,if he asks,that you rarely use fb anymore?

Oh no, do people know if you refuse the request then?????

i have to admit to refusing lots....didnt know that they would know though, shit they will all think i am a complete biatch wont they

I just rarely go on it and cant be arsed being drawn into the whole thing.

shit shit shit

You can either say, "Sorry I only have adults as friends on FB" or you could add him as a 'limited profile' friend (then I don't think they can see your wall). I'm pretty sure you don't have to be friends with someone to look at who is on their friends list (although this may have changed).

Be honest and upfront. I've told some people I won't add them because I only use it to keep in touch with friends.

If I don't want to accept a friend request, I just don't do anything about it - that way you aren't actually ignoring them, or anything they can find.

Check your privacy settings to make sure your profiles are private, and photos etc are friends only

I'd ignore it, give it a few weeks and then block the son so he can't see you anymore. I'd also block your ex. Then he can't see you or anything you comment to anyone, mutual friend or not.

They don't tell the person you've blocked them, they just don't see you anymore. You are erased from the Facebook worl as far as they're concerned.

I often think the block function would be handy in real life......actually maybe not. it would cause bloody mayhem!

Thanks, think I'll just ignore it, really don't want ex cyber spying! Astrid, what a wonderful thought, a real life block function, can I make a wholesale order?