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To worry that i may not have best equipped my DD for the big wide world

54 replies

Lucyellensmumma · 24/02/2010 16:05

She is 19 and lives wiht her boyfriend

Just recieved this face book message:-

You smell-What does it mean to preheat an oven!!!

what have i done???

OP posts:
Kaloki · 24/02/2010 20:00

My brother, when he was 20, had to ask me how to make an omelette!

MangoTango · 24/02/2010 20:16

I put a jumper in the tumble dryer when i was about 20. Was most miffed when it shrunk!
We've got a fan oven so i assume it heats up quite quickly and never preheat. Haven't killed anyone or caused food poisoning yet!

kitcat1977 · 24/02/2010 23:22

Macaroni cheese = tin opener + pan, I would hope!

providentielle · 24/02/2010 23:23

All 3 kids I look after know how and why to preheat an oven. They are 4, 8 and 10

My DB moved 100 miles away from home when he was 18, I went to visit him and he was complaining about the washing machine being rubbish, turned out he was using faric conditioner to wash everything, he said it was the cheapest bottle he could find! Bless!

Also know of an Oxford graduate who was 2/3 way through her medical degree before she found out you had to pay interest on a mortgage, she was horrified!

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 24/02/2010 23:25

A 30 year old friend of mine recently asked me how you boil an egg. Does that help?

mylifemykids · 24/02/2010 23:30

DH always says 'if I've never been taught then WHY would I know?' which is true!

This came about after his mother was when he phoned her asking how to use the washing machine. She was quite offended by the reply of 'well you never showed me how to so why would I know?'!

So in answer to your OP LEM yes it IS your fault

BooyhooNOTboohoooORbooyou · 24/02/2010 23:33

you smell is quite common amongst me and my friends (we are early 20's so similar age to OP's DD)

last xmas OH and i had to google 'basting a turkey' we have both been out of home for 4 years and have 2 children.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 24/02/2010 23:33

I read somewhere (sure it was in Good Food mag ) that if it is a fan-assisted oven you don't have to preheat if the cooking time is going to be 20 mins +.

Take heart- my mum left home completely unable to cook. On arriving home after honeymoon, she went to buy some food with their depleted funds. She went to buy potatoes, but didn't know how many to ask for, so she lurked and listened in to the wifey in front of her in the queue- and subsequently came home with a STONE of potatoes (and nothing else- all money spent on potatoes) She ended up an excellent cook!

As did her sister, who tried to cook chips by cutting potatoes into chip shapes and putting them in a pot of water- then wondered why on earth they weren't crispy!

ReneRusso · 24/02/2010 23:39

My 40yr old DB still takes his washing home to mum, but perhaps that is a whole other thread

Lemonmeringue · 24/02/2010 23:41

My brother is over 50 and still phones my mum from the US to ask her how to make Yorkshire puddings. Every time. Am thinking of sending him a pen and a piece of paper.

I learned to cook very suddenly at the beginning of my second year at university, as my mother never let me near the kitchen. I wrecked one saucepan, but didn't starve or poison myself (obviously, here I am).

kreecherlivesupstairs · 25/02/2010 07:47

If that is the worst thing I don't teach my dd I will consider myself to have done a pretty reasonable job.
My dd can make coffee in a filter thingy and make a toasted cheese sandwich but that's all. She is so clumsy I get anxious when she wants to make a cake or something that goes in the oven. I would definitely not trust her to get something out when it was hot so hat's off to the woman and her garlic bread.

GoldenSnitch · 25/02/2010 08:10

A 'friend' of mine once rang my boyfriend to ask him to ask me how you got a bleach 'stain' out of fabric! She'd been cleaning her company car and had spilled some on the seat!

About 6 months later, after she'd bought him many gifts and curries, he left me to be with her. I often wonder what a state their house must be in

DuelingFanjo · 25/02/2010 08:11

YANBU.

really? I mean, she didn't know what pre-heating was?

I have a friend who has only really taught her daughter to cook so that she will be able to make dinner for her father if she (the mum) dies.

that's F**d up.

franke · 25/02/2010 08:24

I never learnt to cook. I used to regularly burn fishfingers. Even now I have to have a recipe - I can't remember anything about quantities. And I'm over 40.

franke · 25/02/2010 08:25

btw, yanbu, it's all your fault

onebadbaby · 25/02/2010 08:31

My fan oven instructions say no need to preheat. I still do for baking.

Seriously. An oven takes 5 MINUTES tho heat up- if you put your food in cold how much bacteria is going to grow in that time??? I do it all the time, it just takes a couple more minutes to cook that's all.

majafa · 25/02/2010 13:27

My mum actually rings/asks me now on how to cook/how long to cook things ..lol
Shes only 66..bless her

Alambil · 25/02/2010 14:55

hehehe did you say:

"don't be a loon; think about it!"

Alambil · 25/02/2010 14:55

hehehe did you say:

"don't be a loon; think about it!"

Alambil · 25/02/2010 14:55

apologies - mn went weird

meatntattypie · 25/02/2010 15:03

This really worries me though.
I aim to make my ds as self sufficent as possible becasue i want him to be a good husband to some one PLUS i want him to be able to do everything for himslef.

FIL does absolutely naff all for himself or any one else tbh i do not want ds to turn out like this.

so far aged 6 he knows how to sort washing, make a sarnie and helps with baking/cooking etc. Starting early.

Thats my slant on it, either relying on other people OR expecting other people to do stuff for them.
Dont mind giving advice, but i am no ones slave!
(I need recipes for everything)

BooyhooNOTboohoooORbooyou · 25/02/2010 18:54

meatandtattypie both my dad and OH's are absolutely useless and would completely flounder if left to fend for themselves.

you have the right idea, no reason at all for anyone to leave home now without being able to care for themselves.

overmydeadbody · 25/02/2010 19:00

YANBU

How have you parented her for 19 years without teaching her somethign so basic? I'm impressed! Did she not hover just behind you when you where trying to cook asking for an explanation for every little thing you did?

cory · 25/02/2010 19:11

Not everybody hovers behind mum in the kitchen: some children are simply not interested. Doesn't mean they can never learn or develp an interest later in life. In fact, I found it far easier to learn things- particularly practical things- away from my mother's presence; she fusses and bothers me.

And dh, whose mum was completely useless at cooking, is an excellent cook and bakes most of our bread. So you are not doomed even if you do ask a few silly questions aged 19.

TootaLaFruit · 25/02/2010 20:30

When I was about 16 my sister embarrassed me by telling a group of friends I didn't know how to make a cup of tea.
Outraged, I marched into the kitchen to prove her wrong. Heated the kettle, poured in a little milk..... about three minuted later I had to casually ask her to come into the kitchen as I'd been stirring for ages and, to quote myself, "It's not turning brown."

Turned out I hadn't put a teabag in

She still hasn't let me live it down.

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