to expect that my ex husband will continue to pay me

[cutupmum]

£600 pm as per court order when one of my two children has chosen to live with him - he stopped the money for both children 4 days after I asked him to have my daughter when my dad was admitted to hospital -i found out when i went to do the weekly shop

he is supposed to have them for at least 6 weeks in the year anyway ( he doesnt) I am really upset . Of course he has bought my daughter expensive clothes and when I asked him on the phone he suggested I ought to pay him money(!)when they both lilved with me they always saw him once a week and we kept him upt to date with school happenings. Now I never see my daughter and only found out she was in a school concert on the day by chance
so its two things really: the money and: my daughter (who is going to be 17 next week and considers herself to have been thrown out)

MMM we were together for 6 years before we married, 8 years by the time we had DS1.

As I ended the marriage though I apparantly 'chose to be a single parent and must suffer accordingly'. The fact he was an abusive alcoholic was something I was supposed to put up with in his eyes.

Thankfully I've never relied on him for anything ever, I work full time and support us all very well (probably because I have worked hard and now earn a decent salary). So no, I'm not sitting here waiting for his money to support us, we'd be in real trouble if that was the case.

With the benefit of hindsight I would never have had children with him, and the warning signs were always there it's true, but when we were single we used to enjoy going out and partying. I knew I had to change when we had children, he didn't.

If I ever post that I'm thinking of getting married again, please STOP ME!