When I read this I thought the same as EccentricaSchuster. As a young Mum myself (had ds at 18 and dd at 20) I just cannot understand why all teenage parents are (unfairly) tarnished with the same brush. Tweedyneecole, I think to say that teenagers who get pregnant should terminate is ridiculous. If I hadn't of had my son when I did, chances are I would now be living off benefits-I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life at all, I'd started a course at college which I quit after a couple of months, then went on to start a training course which I was ready to quit too as I wasn't enjoying it. Then I fell pregnant, and it put things into perspective for me, I realised, as do many, many other teenage parents, that I had to make something of my life. I worked as hard as I could to finish the course almost a year early, and completed it when 8.5 months pregnant. My partner works, so supported us while I had time at home with the baby, which gave me time to really think about what I wanted to do. If I hadn't fallen pregnant I WOULD have quit the course, and chances are would now be unemployed or in a dead end job, still sponging off either my parents or the state. As it is, I'm at college, aiming for uni (midwifery) next year, have two beautiful children, and I'm really looking forward to the future. We live in a privately rented house, not a council house like many people think all young parents do, we eat no processed food what-so-ever, and my son is way ahead in terms of his development.
I know I am only one example, but I know I am not the only young parent who doesn't completely fuck up. My younger (half) brothers Mum was in her 30's when she had him, but she's a raging alcoholic/drug user, is in & out of my brothers life as & when she feels fit, and is generally a poor, poor excuse of a Mother. But she wasn't a teenager, so she is obviously better suited to being a parent than my partner & I. Can you not see how ridiculous that is?
Sorry - bit of a rant there , this is just something I feel quite strongly about.