to be annoyed at a friend 'outing' my (1st trimester) pregnancy on facebook?

[MudandRoses]

I know this is the way of FB and I should learn to accept it. But a friend guessed our news after DP said he had "something exciting to tell them" and then asked me outright whether my status update was related to "the baby in your belly"! I was so annoyed!

I am 10 wks only, I have told some people but most people don't know...I wrote to her explaining why I'd deleted her comment but she hasn't replied..AIBU?

This is what I mean about FB - you just don't know about people's judgement until they do something like this.

I just don't trust it, I tell you

< fogey emoticon >

Maybe she thought you were telling everyone?

If you're telling friends you would assume it's common knowledge I think.

Sorry I must have got the wrond end of the stick , I read it as though your partner had put the exciting news thing on Facebook.

Apologies to you and the moron your partner.

"By telling someone you have exciting news its almost as good as saying 'we are having a baby' and if you have told her then she will not have even thought twice about mentioning it on facebook unless you've specifically said its a secret."

Well she should have thought twice! I'd be furious at your idiot, tactless friend. YANBU.

Mud, no, YANBU. I recently texted my two best friends telling them I had 'great news'. The news was that I had gotten a brilliant job. Now, those friends knew that DP and I had been trying for a DC, so jumped to conclusions. But, thankfully, didn't post their thoughts on FB. Similarly, I have found out that several friends (with whom I only have contact with via FB,as they live abroad) are pg... But I have only sent congrats via private msg, lest it not be common knowledge. And I do not want to be the one to break their news on FB. I will not discuss such news in a public forum till I know its public... And being on FB doesn't give your friends the right to air your news to the world.

"By telling someone you have exciting news its almost as good as saying 'we are having a baby'"

Really? There is no other exciting news in the entire world?

I think your friend was being very U, OTOH I think you ought to stop using facebook. It is, IME, for teenagers.
Trillian, my most exciting news was the free swine flu vaccination I had.

I, for example, am a twat!

Well having previously posted that I though FB was cräp, I have recently posted pics for friends to see, but that´s all.

And my friends are actual friends who I regularly phone/email/visit when I go to UK.

So, looks as if I have also joined the twäts!

Oh, never mind. Facebook sucks.

Congratulations on your pregnancy

Trillian - You aren't wrong. My most exciting news these days is the Lakeland catalogue plopping though the letterbox.

Thanks pruneplus. I agree about FB being evil and wrong. I think about committing FB suicide occasionally, but I just don't have the strength!! I have friends I see regularly and talk to, but I also have friends and family around the world that I don't, so that's where FB is useful. But there are downsides. As I have learned.

Good to see most mumsnetters appear to be sensible people with good judgement.

-- "Think I'll let facebook know when I've had the baby, THEN phone her, she how she likes it."

Perfect! You must do that

YANBU. Some people need a bit of common sense. My SIL mentioned the birth of my DS before I'd managed to tell my dad .

DS was born at midnight and it was about 2 in the morning before we were in any fit state to talk to anyone. Called my mum as I knew she'd be waiting up (I was induced), and DS was staying at his parents, so they knew when he got back at 6.30am. MIL immediately called SIL to tell her (which is absolutely fine) who must have gone straight onto facebook! I had been moved to the ward at 6am, so thought I would get a quick nap in before I called my dad at a slightly more sociable hour and woke up a couple of hours later to a couple of congratulatory texts from my best friends (who I really wanted to tell myself )...

Thankfully my dad isn't on facebook, so was able to call him straight away to break the news... He would have been very upset if he had found out through other means though, grr!