To want my next child now?

[papoose]

DD is 15 months and I am working 4 days per week. DH does not earn enough to support us all at the moment. However, taking into account the next nine months of saving (assuming I get pregnant straight away like last time, but I know this may not happen), we will have just enough savings to see us through another year of maternity leave.

Once I have 2 DCs I don't want to have to go back to work - regardless of the fact that I will want to be with my DCs, nursery for 2 will cost a fortune. So that gives DH 2 years to increase his earning potential to support us all.

I am cautious by nature and am worried that he won't be able to support us in 2 years. But as each month passes the age gap is growing and my broodiness is increasing! So should we just go for it and hope for the best, or keep delaying matters? I know I could get a night job in Tescos or somehting and am quite prepared to do that, but it might not make up the shortfall!

well, its more that i will have a baby in every room, or that DS will have to go in with DD (and new one displacing DS from the kitchen) and face her tender mercies at night unprotected by the gentle parental eye...

do you reckon you can still get bed reins?

Thanks everyone. I had also not taken in to account the fact that you get free nursery places at 2.9.
Maybe I have not made it clear enough but DH and I really do work as a team and he would also like me to be a sahm after number 2, it's not me bossing him about!!
We totally accept that I may have to go back to some kind of evening work to be able to afford to live. It's just that ideally we would like to time it so that I don't have to!
It's funny, sometimes just writing things down like this can help to clarify your thoughts, can't it.

nah, you need planning permission for those. Possibly it can just share our room until its grown up, That won't warp it at all...

oh and OP - those nursery places are part time, though some people top them up, and you're best off getting the LOs name down early early, like 18mo....

YANBU as long as your DH is absolutely 100% fine with the idea and does not feel pressured. Otherwise YABU

I don't really know why people bother to fret about whether the time is "right" or "how we will cope financially".

Watch some Jeremy Kyle for some handy hints on how to throw caution to the wind, start having babies and assume/expect the state to take up the slack.

Tesco night job be damned.Department for Work and Pensions? Another flat screen television if you please.................

Hardihar

arf.