To be gutted to have found out about close friends geting engaged via a mutual friend who saw it on facebook?

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

They are very old and dear friends. It was always inevitable but I am oddly upset.

I had a mutual friend (she doesn't know them that well at all) over for dinner last night and she told me all about them being engaged, but she'd only heard through a friend of a friend of a friends status update on facebook (phew that sentence was had enough to type let alone read back)

I'm going to theirs this weekend (amazing houseboat on the Avon) and am sure they wanted to tell me in person. They are very private people and I know they would be annoyed their news is spreading around beyond their control.

I won't be able to feign surprise, should I let them know I know?

p.s thank god I killed my facebook account

By 'it was always inevitable' I mean inevitable they would get engaged.....not that I'd find out via facebook.

Sorry My mind is in 5 different places today.

If they didn't post it onto facebook themselves then that is a shame for them and yanbu.

their fault for putting it on facebook then - that was in their control!

I would send them a text saying:

Congratulations! Friend Blah just told me your news, bloody Facebook eh? Can't wait to see you both and celebrate in person. Love TDWP x

Neither are on facebook. From what I can gather they told a friend and then it got passed around.

Ewe good idea!

Now is it presumptive to take a fancy cake and some champagne when I visit?

Facebook is the work of the devil. I know so many people who have fallen out over FB comments, misunderstandings of things that have been 'said' and people posting other people's news.

Not sure if you should let them know or not. I imagine they'll be pretty upset that you already know if they're planning on making a bit announcement, but if you really can't feign surprise them maybe you should let them know before.

Not much help am I

x posts. What ewe said sounds the best plan!

Maybe this thread should have been more of a general rant about facebook.

It's the devils work I tell ya

My friend when in labour had her best friend and DH at the birth. BF posted on facebook 'so scared - X's just gone into theatre'
Then a little later 'BB boy is born, in SCBU for now but gorgeous'

This was when friend had an EMC and had told her husband not to call anyone until she was out as she didn't want them to worry and also wanted to give the good news herself.

They didn't speak for a fortnight after.

Out of order for them to broadcast somebody elses happy news isn't it?

Do what Ewe said, i reckon.

I just found out about a pal splitting up with his girlfriend via his facebook. I long for the days when news wasn't delivered electronically.

urgh,

my mates mother posted her pregnancy news on face book when friend was waiting till 12 weeks before announcing,

was awkward stuff.

When DH and I lost our baby last year one of my (ex) best friends announced it on her FB before I'd even told some of the family!

I'd sent a text to a group of people (close family and friends) to say the baby had been born peacefully (it was expected). 2 minutes later she announced it on her FB - some people just love the power they have over things like that. Ultimate gossip station!

I love facebook for many reasons but this is one of its pitfalls.

I had an elective section with my daughter and had kept the dates and the fact that she was a girl secret from most friends and family with the exception of my mother and brother. However, my close local friend knew the date as she was helping me out with an element of childcare. We were discussing the logistics of it one day while another local friend was over.

Lo and behold the night before the surgery my other local friend posts on my wall "How exciting this time tomorrow you will be holding your baby girl in your arms".

Thankfully I saw it appear and deleted it within about 30 seconds but honestly - how indescrete, she's a facebook friend and you'd think the fact that I had made NO mention of it to anyone would give her a hint that it was pretty guarded info.

As it turns out my brother in law saw it, told my sister in law, who phoned my mother in law and said "I think xxx might be having her baby tomorrow". Needless to say they were miffed that they weren't in the know. But we didn't want to ruin the suprise for them. Instead, someone else did!

I wouldn't feign surprise as I wouldn't want to be less than honest.

I would congratulate them in person when they tell you, but then afterwards just quitely say that although you don't use facebook, the news has spread that way and another friend told you.

I've just sent a text to them both saying congratulations, damn facebook etc, thanks or that ewe.

I'm sad they can't tell me the news in person but it does mean I have an excuse to buy a really good cake and wine for my visit haha

Mmmm cake...

I got a call.

She is furious the news is spreading via facebook, and rightly so.

Ah well. We can celebrate

I know of a teenager who found out his father had died on FB.

i found out my grandad had died via facebook , from reading a "status" of a very dizzy(but lovely) ex-wife of an uncle.
But at least i found out (long story, sigh). .
poor teenager , things are hard enough at that age Lpw.x