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to think that if ex-dh is well enough to manage a days work he is well enough to come see DD?

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Narabug · 22/02/2010 19:27

Hi all,

Sorry, I know I probably am being unreasonable but I am fuming with ex-dh for more reasons than just this!

We have a 9 month old DD, who lives with me, ex-dh lives with his parents (he is 25).

He texted after work yesterday to say that he had a headache, so wouldn't be coming to see DD that evening (he usually comes, plays with her and gives her a bath while I get some dinner/tidy/wash up). He had to go straight to bed (it was 4:30pm)

He was in work again today, but again a text after work to say that his headache was back and he had already gone home to bed, so wouldn't be coming around again.

I feel so sorry for DD as she loves her time with her dad and as she gets older she might be hurt by this. No mention of the fact that I haven't had dinner for the past two nights (DD is clingy when on her own with me, teething, and doesn't go to bed until 9pm most nights)

I guess at the end of the day, he is the one missing out at the moment, but soon it will be her too.

For the record, when he has a headache, he just goes to bed, doesn't try taking anything or drinking plenty, just goes straight to bed. If I suggest he come round and I'll get him some Hedex or a Cool'n'Sooth strip (I suffer from occasional migraines) he just ignores my messages....

Urgh, rant over sorry!

Thanks for listening

x

OP posts:
OTTMummA · 22/02/2010 20:30

he can't just stop seeing her because of a headache!
whats wrong with him?
seriously, i doubt there is much that will change his attitude if all it takes for him not to see his own DD is a headache, all you can do, is stress to him how important regular REGULAR contact, also let him know that you have no choice about having your DD when your ill so why is it so dam hard for him to be a part time dad when it suits him!

the only other thing i can say about the meals is make a few different pasta sauces, freeze them so you have something to hand, pasta takes 10 mins to cook, have a pack of ham and some cheese, mix that in and you have a meal when your busy or have little time.

oh and eggs! omlettes are quick and easy to make too.

sorry he's being a selfish twat, but hey, gotta keep on. xx

GypsyMoth · 22/02/2010 20:41

why is he having contact in your home?

what about weekends?

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