dh who snores

[hypnobabe]

dh has moved into spare room so we can all have a better nights sleep. actually getting quite used to it. does anyone think this is a terrible idea that sounds death-knell for marriage?

Bio-ears you can get them from Boots. Also convenient when children come into your bedroom in the middle of the night and you can pretend you can't hear them so DH has to deal and it is his fault because he snores.

It is a death knell. But an essential one.

DH has slept on the sofa bed in the playroom for 3 years, probably longer as DS2 is just 3. It's the only spare room in the house.

I sleep in the middle of the bed.

We have no intamacy whatsoever. Not had sex for over a year.

He had an operation 8 years ago, which worked for two years or so. He has small nasal passage that had scar tissue in from a cricket injury.

He needs to have it done again and loose some weight, according to the GP. But he has done nothing about it despite my pleas.

I have bought him and he has tried all those bullshit over the counter things on Boots which are total crap.

So we have a total lack of closeness, more like flatmates than husband and wife, we get on have fun most of the time, but I desperately miss it, the balls in his court, I have said and helped all I can.

I need sleep, after 2 DS's who did not sleep through till 1.5, I will not have him in bed.

What a depressing post.

DH and I sleep in the same bed maybe 2 nights out of 7. We started sleeping separately when I was pregnant and wasn't sleeping at all. Now one of us will take the spare room if DS has been up several nights in a row, to have a break and a decent night's sleep.

Our relationship is strong as ever. We have sex on a regular basis. We were never 'midnight' snugglers even when we always slept in the same bed, i.e. before DS was born.

My PIL have been married 40 years this March. They have slept in separate bedrooms for about the last 30 of those years due to FIL's snoring.

hmc - there are other symptms of sleep apnoea not just snoring, the most obvious one being a tendancy to fall asleep during the day and to get up for a wee more often during the night. If either of those apply to you then get yourself along to your GP pronto. If not then you are unlikely to have sleep apnoea but some other reason.

Sleep apnoea is far less common in women than men but lucky me I have a particularly bad case - I have an apnoea index over 100 ie I stop breathing on average 100 times an hour through the night. I have a machine to help me breathe at night and its pretty much under control now (except looking like Darth Vader at night!)

I've found being on the receiving end of a dramatic flounce out of the room in the middle of the night (even if I offer to move, the damage is done by then) far worse for our relationship than just agreeing to go to sleep in separate rooms every single night. We go to bed together, but at lights out, I go to another room. Nobody should ever underestimate the seething resentment that non-snorers harbour towards snorers and it's that that will destroy a marriage, not separate beds.

We have separate rooms also, he snores, DD wakes up once a night and comes in bed, both DH and I go to bed and get up totally different times. It is great having own room, though sometime I can hear snores through the wall. How come he doesn't wake himself up?? It is fine for us. Still in lust with each other.

My DH started snoring when he started shift work and as I am a really light sleeper he would wake me if he was breathing heavily! I used to go on the settee but now got a spare room so go there if I wake. No problems with sex life, in fact it's improved as I am not so tired! Don't know who invented sleeping in the same bed but bet it was a man!

another spare room sleeper here too, and i also worry about the implications for intimacy... but with young children, it's all about getting a good night's sleep isn't it? We're lucky to have a spare room to use, but holidays are so expensive as we now have to book a cottage with one extra bedroom, and as for 'romantic' weekends away at nice hotels - fergettaboutit.

I don't understand why all of you who are suffering with snoring partners are still putting up with it.

Please see my post further above, there are remedies if you push for them.

my ex snored and it ruined our relationship because of the nocturnal resentment. My boyfriend snores and now doesnt stay as i nudge him each time he snores so he doesnt get a good nights sleep.
And sods law...i now snore and wake myself up....so my sleep is really broken. Guess im destined to be single

Thanks kewcumber - you have reassured me. Blimey though - I am glad you have been diagnosed and have the medical equipment to regulate your condition!

Seperate beds (houses) works for Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton. The idea of the two fully grown adults putting up with each others sounds and habits whilst the wee ones get a great nights kip each tucked up in their own bed is just a developers dream to sell houses using less space. Not that long ago (okay, a while ago, in previous centuries)all DHs and DWs slept in their own bedrooms.

I'm convinced the divorce rate would drop to almost nothing if folks all had a good nights sleep.