I have been invited on a night out to a local night club with some friends for a birthday. I'm not normally one for nightclubs anymore but I am 27 weeks pg and have been stuck in with the DCs for what feels like months. I'm doing my degree full time atm too so find it hard to get motivated to go anywhere or do anything else other than be with the kids or do my work.
Anyway, this night out was arranged about a month ago, which meant I had plenty of time to arrange DH to be at home for the DCs. He is self employed and can pretty much choose his own hours. I spoke to DH who said tonight would be fine for me to go out, but would I really want to being pg. Weighing it up, I decided that yes, I would like to go out because unlike him, I don't have the luxury of just popping down the pub after work, or I don't have the luxury of popping to the library to revise for exams as he does, without arranging childcare.
I have spent the last week reminding him about tonight. He has had the week off in preparation for a big exam at college. I feel as if I've been lumbered with all the housework and entertaining the kids all over half term so feel as if I deserve a bit of time out with my friends (who incidentally, I don't really see much of now).
He's gone to work today and I've phoned him to see when he will be home so I can go. He has decided that he needs to work late tonight so won't be home until 11 ish. That would be ok, but my friends are meeting at 8 and going into the club together at around 10, so I would be arriving in the place alone, have to get there myself instead of sharing cabs etc.
DH doesn't see this as a problem but is now making a song and dance about having to come home early. I've told him not to bother if its going to be such a hardship. I'm really pissed off about it though because it's not like I go anywhere or do anything. It's only one night and I just feel like he gets to do whatever he wants, when he wants. Feels a bit one sided. AIBU?